Monthly Archives: April 2018

I AM CHANGING

Yes, I am changing.

After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.

Yes, I am changing.

I just realised that I am not “Atlas” the world does not rest on my shoulders.

Yes, I am changing.

I now stopped bargaining with poor vegetables fruits vendors. After all, a few rupees more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.

Yes, I am changing.

I pay the autowalla / cabbie walk away without waiting for the change. The extra money might bring a smile on his face. After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.

Yes, I am changing.

I stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that story many times. After all, the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relive the past.

Yes, I am changing.

I have learn not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. After all, the onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

Yes, I am changing.

I give compliments freely generously. After all its a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me.

Yes, I am changing.

I have learnt not to bother about a crease on my shirt or a spot on my pant. After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.

Yes, I am changing.

I walk away from people who don’t value me. After all, they might not know my worth, but I do.

Yes, I am changing.

I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics to outrun me in the rat race. After all, I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.

Yes, I am changing.

I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. After all, it’s my emotions that make me human.

Yes, I am changing.

I have learnt that its better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. After all, my ego will keep me aloof whereas with relationships I will never be alone.

Yes, I am changing.

I demand for whatever is due to me. After all, accepting injustice is almost as bad as doing injustice.

Yes, I am changing. I’ve learnt to live each day as if it were the last. After all, it might be the last.

Yes, I am changing.

I am doing what makes me happy. After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.

Divine Change

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Happiness

“ I am rich, fit, and I have mastered almost everything I wanted to master. Why am I still not happy and still not satisfied?” – posted in Quora by Anonymous

*Answer by Karim Elsheikh*:

“Human happiness (as we know it) is caused by 4 basic chemicals:

*Dopamine*

*Endorphins*

*Serotonin*

*Oxytocin*

# On your journey to become fit, your body released endorphins to cope with the pain of physical exercise. You probably began to enjoy exercise as you got into it, and the endorphins made you happy – *temporarily*.

# On your journey to become rich, you probably completed many tasks and goals. You probably bought all the things you’ve ever wanted. Nice cars, beautiful clothes, and a perfect home. This released dopamine in your brain when you achieved your goals and bought these things, which once again contributed to your happiness – *temporarily*.

*So what about the other two chemicals?*

It turns out that human happiness is incomplete without all 4 chemicals constantly being released in the brain.

So now you need to work on releasing serotonin and oxytocin.

“How do I do that, Buddy?”

# Serotonin is released when we act in a way that benefits others. When we give to causes beyond ourselves and our own benefit. When we connect with people on a deep, human level. Writing this Quora answer is releasing serotonin in my brain right now because I’m using my precious time on the weekend to give back to others for free. Hopefully I’m providing useful information that can help other people, like yourself.

*That’s why you often see billionaires turning to charity when they have already bought everything they wanted to, and experienced everything they wanted to in life*. They’ve had enough dopamine from material pleasures, now they need the serotonin.

# Oxytocin on the other hand, is released when we become close to another human being. *When we hug a friend, or shake someone’s hand, oxytocin is released in varying amounts*.

Oxytocin is easy to release. It’s all about becoming more social!

Share your wealth with your friends and family to create amazing experiences.

Laugh, love, cooperate, and play with others.

That’s it my friend!

I think it all comes down to the likelihood that you are missing two things: contribution and social connection”

(I think it’s a brilliant piece of info, and I am also getting my dose of Serotonin now !! ?)

Our core Wound

How to Discover Your Deepest, Darkest “Core Wound”

by Mateo Sol

In life, we all have the tendency to believe that we are unworthy on some deep, undefinable level. Whether we believe that we are unworthy of happiness, pleasure, love or fulfillment, we all have a “core wound” deep inside that varies according to our circumstances and experiences. This deep, fundamental wound is the result of the foundational beliefs that we were taught since birth, contributing to the faulty self-image that we continue to carry around with us to this very day.

Our core wounds are our deepest seated pains in life. They are our oldest and most miserable friends. For most of us, these core wounds within us are ruled by the following two mistaken beliefs:

1. “I am flawed and therefore a bad person.”

2. “I must change or fix something about myself in order to be acceptable.”

The Original Sin

Christian teachings make reference to our “core wound” all the time in the form of “original sin.” However, once we put aside the dogmatic associations connected with this notion, we see that “original sin” reveals something profound about our deep-rooted core wounds; how issues such as generational guilt, self-rejection, imbalanced self-esteem, and self-hatred has passed on from generation to generation.

Often, our core wounds start in childhood. When we are little we are free. We experience unconditional love and acceptance for all of our needs, and we are granted full expression of ourselves. We don’t experience any inner fragmentation or limitations at all. However, at some point during our childhood we began to experience constraints. As we “ate from the Tree of Knowledge” we slowly came up against invalidation from our parents, elders, and peers. We began to experience disapproval and punishment for being our authentic selves. And so, our core wounds began to deepen.

As our core wounds began to deepen throughout our childhoods, pubescent years, and subsequent adult years, we began to put up barriers of protection to keep other people from hurting us. Although in many cases this protected us, in the end it served to trap us inside, limiting our ability to experience true freedom and authenticity in our day-to-day lives and in every one of our relationships.

Our core wounds are the cause of most of the fatigue we experience in daily life, preventing us from accessing the huge stores of untapped energy, and potential within us. They are also what makes solitude so refreshing as they give us a momentary respite from the lies we tell ourselves and others to protect our deep, unhealed gashes.

Getting to Know Your Core Wound

Everyone experiences their “core wound” differently. Depending on your Soul Age, level of emotional sensitivity, and the level of rejection you faced while growing up, your core wound could be an irritating scab, or a festering laceration.

How is your core wound manifesting itself in your life? Read the signs below:

You enter relationships in the hopes of finding what you lack inside in the other person (i.e. you want to “feel complete”).

You often feel inadequate, and you have the following thoughts: “I am not enough,” “I am incomplete,” “I am unlovable,” “I don’t count,” “I am imperfect,” “I am powerless,” and “I am bad.”

You constantly feel a sense of abandonment, resentment and/or betrayal.

You have a perfectionistic attitude towards life (i.e. you gain your self-esteem from the outcome of your actions instead of the intention behind your actions).

You suffer from chronic anxiety. This comes as a result of anticipating the emotional pain of being found unworthy, which deep down you think is true.

You repeat the same old mistakes in relationships. This is because you are trapped in a habitual mindset and don’t feel courageous enough to make a change.

You find happiness in your misery because it’s a source of attention in the form of sympathy from other people.

You have a strong Shadow Self.

You behave in dishonest/inauthentic ways that are not true to the person you really are. You behave in this way to gain the acceptance of others.

You feel numb inside. You feel a sense of meaninglessness and disconnection from the world around you. This is the ultimate defense mechanism: feeling nothing.

You are your own worst critic (i.e. you constantly remind yourself how much of a “loser” or a “failure” you are).

You always feel like an outcast, and you can never quite fit in with anyone. Instead of appreciating your uniqueness and seeing it as an opportunity, you see it as a curse.

The larger your core wound is, the more you experience Soul Loss. Often, this is passed onto the people around you (like a virus) — especially children, who are the most susceptible and vulnerable.

Healing Your Core Wound

The most suffering we experience from our core wounds revolves around the false self-images we present to the world. On one hand we go through life pretending to be very important, and on the other we believe that we are unworthy, ugly, dirty, unlovable, and stupid deep down.

The entire basis of the process of soulwork is to discover all of these little bits and pieces within ourselves that are broken, and to first become aware of them.

We need to examine our wounds carefully, wash them using psychological and spiritual tools, and keep them clean until they heal. A good place to begin this process is by admitting that we are lying to ourselves. We need to stop avoiding the truth about our lives, and develop the courage to face our flaws and erroneous perceptions.

Toxic Spirituality

TOXIC SPIRITUALITY:

Clearing this out, here are the 14 most toxic “spiritual” habits that you should stop doing right now!

1. Stop pretending your problems don’t exist. Face them. The longer you ignore them, the stronger they will get!

2. Stop pretending your mistakes never happened. We all make mistakes. Embrace them. Learn from them. Grow from them. They made you who you are.

3. Stop telling yourself you can’t do something before you’ve given it an honest effort.

4. Stop neglecting the things that are important to you just because they might be inspired by your ego. Don’t forget that a healthy ego serves your heart.

5. Stop putting the needs of other people first. It’s good to help others from time to time, but give them permission to take charge of their own life. And after all, they are not your responsibility. Take care of yourself. Love yourself. Become your own best friend.

6. Stop trimming away all the people who matter to you just because they are negative. Maybe the problem is in you. Maybe you need to show them a better way. Bottom line is, if they mean something in your life you don’t just let go of them. Try to improve the resonance between them and you by finding and fixing the cause of negativity.

7. Stop rejecting your inappropriate feelings. It’s ok to envy others. Avoiding envy creates jealousy. While jealousy is destructive, envy tells you what you want for yourself. Either go out and achieve those things for yourself, or embrace the life you do have.

8. Stop believing that you need to change to become the real you. You are yourself. Just remove everything that’s not you.

9. Stop being kind all of the time. Forcing kindness is not real kindness. You are a human and sometimes you are angry, and sad, and frustrated. Just be real and do not hurt others.

10. Stop forcing happiness, you don’t have to be happy all of the time. It’s ok to be sad, it won’t harm you. Avoiding it might. And sometimes you are neither happy nor sad. You are just you. Being. Existing in your natural state. Embrace what you feel.

11. Stop beating yourself up over mistakes and imperfections. You’re just a human being. You don’t have to fix or improve everything!

12. Stop choosing the path of least resistance. If it doesn’t align perfectly with your life path, but you still want it from the bottom of your heart, find a way! If something matters to you, fight for it. It matters for a reason, a reason that touched depths of your soul not many things can come close to.

13. Stop waiting for your circumstances to change. Stop meditating for peace without taking action. Stop waiting for synchronicities to happen to know that it is time. Take charge of your life. Do what makes you happy!

14. Stop rejecting your darkness. Your inappropriate thoughts and feelings are a part of you as much as everything else. Hiding them does not make you better. Accepting your weakness gives you opportunity to improve and grow. You can’t grow without your darkness.

— Gostica article.

Challenge Yourself

Challenging ourselves takes our skill set to another level.

It can be easy for us to dismiss the talents we have and the things we have learned.

We need to constantly remind ourselves that we were once beginners and that in order to grow we need to open ourselves up to new and exciting challenges, no matter how difficult they may be.

By trying something stimulating today, not only will your skills improve but you will also see just how much you have accomplished in your life.

Expansion and Growth

What percentage of your life would you like to change in order to be truly satisfied?

Ten percent?

Thirty percent?

Fifty percent?

Ninety percent?

(There is no such thing as a life expression that needs one hundred percent change. There is always at least ten percent of your life that is working beautifully in line with what you would like to create, with you being in the body, present on the earth, breathing, living, and seeking growth.)

So let’s presume you are completely happy with all but one area of your life.

For example, everything is working for you to your satisfaction except your career.

Let us suppose that your career needs to shift approximately thirty percent in order to be better.

This is a powerful exercise. If you can recognize thirty percent of it isn’t working, it means seventy percent of it is.

It means one hundred percent of the other areas of your life are wonderful.

That is how much you have to be grateful and celebrate!

Now the next question is, are you ready to move into the unknown that you need to open up to in order to create the thirty percent change for your career?

How much expansion are you comfortable with?

Ten percent?

Thirty percent?

Ninety percent?

What amount could you surrender and flow into willingly right now?

Do you see? It can be as simple as identifying how small of an area of your life is not working for you and agreeing into that exact amount of surrender and expansion.

That can make it far easier for you to see what is satisfactory for you and move into expansion and open to new potentials and possibilities without being overwhelmed.

The more complete your surrender, the greater and more transformative the change, to be sure, but it is perfectly fine to start small if that is what is required for you to willingly experiment and cooperate with the process.

Play the numbers game. Transform your life one area at a time. This is exactly how you will start to have fun with co-creation, get comfortable with surrender and flow, and begin to willingly embrace the forward movement that is always available for you.

Divine Expansion

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