Are you Caring or Controlling?

I was in a consultation with a middle age couple.They started fighting right in front of me. The upset husband said- See doc….I ‘CARE’ so much for her and this is what I get in return..To which the fuming wife replied- He doesn’t care…he just ‘CONTROLS’…!

The “CARE” from one person was perceived as “CONTROL” by another !

Made me think…what is CARE and what is CONTROL? How to identify them?

Soon I received the answer.

I had an argument with my teenage son over a trivial disciplinary issue…Harsh words were exchanged leaving both of us upset…😪

After sometime, as our emotions settled down , we said sorry to each other…
My son hugged me and said- mummy ,you know why you got upset?

You were not upset because I did wrong..but u were upset because I didn’t follow your instructions….there is a big difference !

I was stunned with his mature thinking pattern. ..I received my answer too… I was trying to control him under the disguise of care…that caused the conflict ….

If I really ‘CARE’ for someone , I will not get upset or angry with that person…I will keep searching different ways to help that person..

If I am struggling in any relationship…I need to closely observe if there is any subtle CONTROL hidden behind my apparent care…because :

Care is an expression of love while control is an expression of ego…

Control cuts…Care connects …

Control hurts…Care heals…

Keep caring for people but don’t try to control them … because

Often people are not wrong…they are just ‘different’…

Keep caring…!!

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