Category Archives: Acceptance

No No No ~ YES

🌹A No No No story🌹

Yesterday I was in a business training where the trainer asked us a following question

“If I give you 1cr rupees will you jump from the plane?”

Before I go further I would like you to answer this question.

*What would you reply?*

Most of the people in the room said *”No No No”* there where few of the other interesting answers but a NO was the maximum.

On this the trainer said “you all answered me before I could even inform you wether I’ll give you a parachute or not, or even if the plane is in the sky or on ground.”

This really made me go to all those places in my life where I just say NO NO NO without even considering it on a auto pilot.

Are you doing the same?

Where, when, what, why and how have you made a NO NO NO a auto pilot in your life?

Have you ever wondered how many NO’s are you using from the life you desire and from what you know is possible?

If you would choose to live your life with 🌹YES🌹

*YES* I can.

*YES* let’s do it.

*YES* I love you.

*YES* I am different.

*YES* I don’t like you.

*YES* I want money.

Won’t this crate more ease in your life?👍

✔️Are you willing to have a YES life?✔️

Tell me More

“Hi Bandana,

2 quick questions for you…

1) Are men really from Mars?

2) Are women from Venus?

I’m sure you’ve heard this reference many times before, and the implication is that we’re so different, men and women might as well be from different planets.

The reality is, we are equal in many respects – especially when it comes to our basic human needs like safety, love, belonging, and our desire to become the most we can be. But we are also different… after all, we are individuals with unique experiences.

This can be seen in how we each think, react, and communicate to the same circumstances.

For example, men tend to communicate through actions rather than words.

This behavior can be traced back to prehistoric times, when men did most of the hunting, providing, and solving challenges. In other words, they proved their worth by taking care of their family.

So when a woman tells a man about a problem, his immediate reaction is to fix it.

This approach can make women feel offended, insulted, or even angry–because women don’t necessarily want men to solve their problem.

Unless they specifically ask for that, what women really want is to be heard and understood. They want men to pay attention and connect with them emotionally.

However, men aren’t intentionally trying to be insulting or offensive. They’re just simply following their instinct and survival methods: “I see a problem, therefore I must help NOW.”

So women, if you find yourself getting irritated by men jumping in to solve a situation, problem or challenge, remember it’s not a statement about you or your abilities.

Men are simply acting on their knee-jerk desire to fix whatever they think is “broken.”

And men, I’d like to teach you 3 powerful words you can use every time a woman opens up to you about a challenge she’s experiencing. Instead of jumping into action, take a deep breath, and say these simple words…

“Tell me more.”

Then, let her know you listened by reflecting back and saying things like, “So what you’re saying is…” or “That must be really frustrating,” or “I can see why you’re upset.”

Now that you know about these differences, think about how you can use this knowledge to communicate more effectively with the opposite sex.

Remember this, Laila , women tend to show intimacy by sharing their feelings, while men tend to express their caring through their actions.”

– from a newsletter of Jack Canfield – Author of many books including Success Principles and How to get from where you are to where you want to be and Chicken soup for the Soul series 🙂

Leaking Bucket

🗑🚰 ​Beware of the Leaking Bucket

1. You make people believe you are righteous but secretly you are devil’s agent. ​(A leaking bucket).

2. You pray all the time but you have no strong faith at all. ​(A leaking bucket).

3. You’re very kind to people and speak with them gently but with your family you’re always harsh. ​(A leaking bucket).

4.. You honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them and talk about their flaws. ​(A leaking bucket).

5. You give a lot of charity to the poor but you humiliate them and hurt them. ​(A leaking bucket).

6. You stand up to pray at night, fast and read The Holy Book everyday but you cut your family ties. ​(A leaking bucket).

7. You joke with friends openly but behind them you swear, insult, curse and blackmail them. ​(A leaking bucket).

8. You help others but you’re doing it to gain something from them and not doing those acts of kindness for the sake of Almighty God’s Glory. ​(A leaking bucket).

9. You post reminders and have thousands of followers on facebook, twitter and instagram but you’re doing it for the fame, not to spread the gospel. ​(A leaking bucket).

10. You read this beautiful post and you gain from it but deliberately refuse to share with others. ​(A leaking bucket).

May the Almighty God have mercy on us not to become Leaking Buckets.🗑🚰

Positive or Negative?

*How To Instantly Read Someone’s Personality With One Question*

One type of question can indirectly reveal a lot about a person’s personality.

Asking someone what they think about other people reveals much about their own personality.

*The reason is that people tend to see more of their own qualities in others.*

The generous person sees others as generous and the selfish person sees others as selfish.

Dr Dustin Wood, the study’s first author, said:

_“A huge suite of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively._

_The simple tendency to see people negatively indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.”_

The conclusions come from a series of three studies.

In one people were asked to judge the positive and negative characteristics of three other people.

The more positively they judged those people, the more happy, enthusiastic, capable and emotionally stable they turned out to be themselves.

People who judged others more positively also turned out to be more satisfied with their own lives.

Set against this, those who judged others more negatively had higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behaviour.

The researchers even returned to the same people a year later and found the results were the same.

This suggests that what people’s ratings of others say about themselves remains stable over time.

Personality disorders are often diagnosed at least partly by how people view others, the authors write:

_“…although narcissists may perceive others as being uninteresting or worthless, this may not reflect how they see themselves._

_Similarly, individuals displaying behaviors typical of paranoid personality disorder may believe that others are malevolent and untrustworthy, even though they may not see themselves that way._

_[…]_

_Machiavellianism is usually measured in part by asking individuals the extent to which they perceive a lack of sincerity, integrity, or selflessness in others’ actions, and narcissistic behavior is thought to be prompted in part by a belief that other people are inferior, uninteresting, and unworthy of attention.”_

The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Wood et al., 2010).

Acceptance

This was the Today’s Topic in my Parenting Whatsap group…

A to Z of Parenting begins with Acceptance and what is Acceptance?

Today was watching the movie Hichki, where the Actress Rani Mukerjee had some rear disease called Tourette Syndrome where she created some noise continuously and that was a shameful thing for her Dad….

As the father never accepted her daughter completely, he never stayed with them.

Luckily she had an understanding and loving Mother and her younger brother who accepted her Completely…..and so she could convert her weakness into her biggest strength.

She wanted to be a teacher but due to her problem she was rejected by 18 schools and again dad wanted her to take up a bank job where she might not have to speak much but she was adamant on being a teacher.

Finally she was appointed by one school but the class she got was of rowdy kids from slums….even children wanted her teacher to leave them but she accepted them and stood by them and transform them.

True Acceptance is accept yourself the way you are, don’t compare yourself with others and then only you can fly high…..she taught this kids also the same things by asking them to write what they are scared of and then asked them to make a paper plane and fly it in air…..

Easy simple Activity but that’s the Real meaning of Life.

Why am I writing all this, you must be wondering…

I am writing this as even I was never accepted for what I am ~ neither as a child nor as an adult with the healing profession by few but nothing stopped me as I accepted myself competely as I am….

Yes I am not smart enough.

I am not expressive enough.

I can’t carry myself well enough.

I don’t have sense to speak.

I don’t have a Goal, neither I have long term vision….

I live one day at a time and just do what my heart says and yes God has been kind enough to bless me with success cases through my Intuitive Training and Therapies.

I am blessed to have a supportive family.

I am blessed to have clients who love to call me Didima, Di, Baima etc etc…..some have made me their daughter and some mother and some sister and that’s complete acceptance.

Divine Acceptance

🌺💕☘️💕🌺