False Evidence Appearing Real
It is but that you must be free from fear.
The moment you try to free yourself from fear, you create a resistance from fear.
Resistance, in any form does not end fear.
What is needed, rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance, is understanding fear, understand its learning, that means, watch it, learn about it, come directly in contact with it.
We are to learn about fear, not how to escape from it, not how to resist it through courage and false hope.
Whats the Brilliance behind your Fear? What it is trying to convey to you?
Laila Ahmed ~ 9820250409
Expectation from others is root cause of pain in relationship …
We do good ..we expect same from others …this is where true problem lies ..
Sun gives sunlight ..but never expects …trees give shade n fruits but no expectation in return ..
That’s the reason our ancestor worship Sun .. ..trees etc ..
The moment we drop expectation from others .. we too come into the category where people start worshiping with respect n gratitude ..
Expect from self …it will take us up new height of achievement …expect from our health , we will lead medicine free life …expect from our brain , we will soar national height n become biggest whatever you do ..
Set the target for self …increase it every week ..every month …n see the new leader in you emerging ..because our expectation with self can make you touch the sky..
Expectation from others will give only pain , frustration , tears , breakoff , aloness , anger ,and feeling of revenge …
Such things are slow poison ..which destroys us permanently from root level ..
Son, daughter ,spouse , parents , friends , relatives , office collegue have very very limited role in our life ….they are separate identity ..separate soul …they cannot and never be our mirror identity …and expecting from them returns of your good deeds is just degrading our value in our eyes ..
When we do charity to any beggar …we do it without any expectation …that process fills the heart with joy and gratitude ..
Because we know , beggar do not have capacity and ability to return your good deeds towards you ..
Live like king ..think like a king …act like a king …just keep “donating” good deeds who so ever comes in need to you ..
You are capable ..that’s why people take / seek ur support ..
They cannot return your “donation ” , because they are not king like you …
Expectation can be permanently drop from your body thru consistent “Meditation ” & “self healing ” …
Anger :- A gift or a curse?? …. Read on….
I sat with my anger. I held its hand and thanked it. I breathed deeply. Looked at it. Acknowledged it and then asked, “Why are you here?”
“I am here”, anger replied, “because you let everyone violate you and take you for granted. You donot draw your boundaries.”
I sat there, frozen, in silence, absorbing this. Anger, which I thought was bad, which I was taught is the root cause of every evil, which I was conditioned to believe it has to be controlled, was actually playing a beautiful role in my life. It was a gift.
That made me think, “If I embraced this gift, the gift of drawing boundaries, what would happen?” “Will anger go away”?, I thought to myself.
I went on an inner pilgrimage. I went back in time and observed all incidents that had made me angry. The underlying aspect in all those situations was that I felt violated in some way. Not respected, not honored in some way. I allowed people to take away my power, I felt helpless. And there came anger to protect me. Because I could not protect or honor myself.
Anger was playing a wonderful role.
So, there I was sitting with “anger” again. “Tell me anger”, what should I do?”
Anger replied, “Draw boundaries, Re-claim your power and I WILL BE GONE”.
You may ask, “What happened next”? “Did you apply boundaries? Did anger go away?”
“No, Not Really”, I say. It is a PART of me. How can a part of ME go away? You see, every emotion is a part of us. We are, as Carl Jung, says, a 360 degree with various personality parts.
“Then what’s the point?”, you may ask.
“Well, Anger, right now stands away – may be as a gatekeeper, guarding, not controlling – just watching whether I let any unwelcome guests inside.
As long as I don’t, it keeps quiet. The moment I “Allow” someone to take my power away, whenever I am helpless or let anyone violate or manipluate me, whenever I ‘allow’ this, the Gatekeeper comes ALIVE.
Anger is a guardian. It’s an ally. I understand it’s gift. The more I apply and use this gift, the more it just stands at the threshold, ‘watching’.
The moment I don’t apply the gift, it walks right back in.
Every emotion is a gift. You just have to sit with it and ask, “Why are you here? What role are you playing?”
Can you do that with your anger? With your fear, insecurity, jealousy, resistance?
🌹A No No No story🌹
Yesterday I was in a business training where the trainer asked us a following question
“If I give you 1cr rupees will you jump from the plane?”
Before I go further I would like you to answer this question.
*What would you reply?*
Most of the people in the room said *”No No No”* there where few of the other interesting answers but a NO was the maximum.
On this the trainer said “you all answered me before I could even inform you wether I’ll give you a parachute or not, or even if the plane is in the sky or on ground.”
This really made me go to all those places in my life where I just say NO NO NO without even considering it on a auto pilot.
Are you doing the same?
Where, when, what, why and how have you made a NO NO NO a auto pilot in your life?
Have you ever wondered how many NO’s are you using from the life you desire and from what you know is possible?
If you would choose to live your life with 🌹YES🌹
*YES* I can.
*YES* let’s do it.
*YES* I love you.
*YES* I am different.
*YES* I don’t like you.
*YES* I want money.
Won’t this crate more ease in your life?👍
✔️Are you willing to have a YES life?✔️
🗑🚰 Beware of the Leaking Bucket
1. You make people believe you are righteous but secretly you are devil’s agent. (A leaking bucket).
2. You pray all the time but you have no strong faith at all. (A leaking bucket).
3. You’re very kind to people and speak with them gently but with your family you’re always harsh. (A leaking bucket).
4.. You honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them and talk about their flaws. (A leaking bucket).
5. You give a lot of charity to the poor but you humiliate them and hurt them. (A leaking bucket).
6. You stand up to pray at night, fast and read The Holy Book everyday but you cut your family ties. (A leaking bucket).
7. You joke with friends openly but behind them you swear, insult, curse and blackmail them. (A leaking bucket).
8. You help others but you’re doing it to gain something from them and not doing those acts of kindness for the sake of Almighty God’s Glory. (A leaking bucket).
9. You post reminders and have thousands of followers on facebook, twitter and instagram but you’re doing it for the fame, not to spread the gospel. (A leaking bucket).
10. You read this beautiful post and you gain from it but deliberately refuse to share with others. (A leaking bucket).
May the Almighty God have mercy on us not to become Leaking Buckets.🗑🚰
*How To Instantly Read Someone’s Personality With One Question*
One type of question can indirectly reveal a lot about a person’s personality.
Asking someone what they think about other people reveals much about their own personality.
*The reason is that people tend to see more of their own qualities in others.*
The generous person sees others as generous and the selfish person sees others as selfish.
Dr Dustin Wood, the study’s first author, said:
_“A huge suite of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively._
_The simple tendency to see people negatively indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.”_
The conclusions come from a series of three studies.
In one people were asked to judge the positive and negative characteristics of three other people.
The more positively they judged those people, the more happy, enthusiastic, capable and emotionally stable they turned out to be themselves.
People who judged others more positively also turned out to be more satisfied with their own lives.
Set against this, those who judged others more negatively had higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behaviour.
The researchers even returned to the same people a year later and found the results were the same.
This suggests that what people’s ratings of others say about themselves remains stable over time.
Personality disorders are often diagnosed at least partly by how people view others, the authors write:
_“…although narcissists may perceive others as being uninteresting or worthless, this may not reflect how they see themselves._
_Similarly, individuals displaying behaviors typical of paranoid personality disorder may believe that others are malevolent and untrustworthy, even though they may not see themselves that way._
_Machiavellianism is usually measured in part by asking individuals the extent to which they perceive a lack of sincerity, integrity, or selflessness in others’ actions, and narcissistic behavior is thought to be prompted in part by a belief that other people are inferior, uninteresting, and unworthy of attention.”_
The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Wood et al., 2010).
This was the Today’s Topic in my Parenting Whatsap group…
A to Z of Parenting begins with Acceptance and what is Acceptance?
Today was watching the movie Hichki, where the Actress Rani Mukerjee had some rear disease called Tourette Syndrome where she created some noise continuously and that was a shameful thing for her Dad….
As the father never accepted her daughter completely, he never stayed with them.
Luckily she had an understanding and loving Mother and her younger brother who accepted her Completely…..and so she could convert her weakness into her biggest strength.
She wanted to be a teacher but due to her problem she was rejected by 18 schools and again dad wanted her to take up a bank job where she might not have to speak much but she was adamant on being a teacher.
Finally she was appointed by one school but the class she got was of rowdy kids from slums….even children wanted her teacher to leave them but she accepted them and stood by them and transform them.
True Acceptance is accept yourself the way you are, don’t compare yourself with others and then only you can fly high…..she taught this kids also the same things by asking them to write what they are scared of and then asked them to make a paper plane and fly it in air…..
Easy simple Activity but that’s the Real meaning of Life.
Why am I writing all this, you must be wondering…
I am writing this as even I was never accepted for what I am ~ neither as a child nor as an adult with the healing profession by few but nothing stopped me as I accepted myself competely as I am….
Yes I am not smart enough.
I am not expressive enough.
I can’t carry myself well enough.
I don’t have sense to speak.
I don’t have a Goal, neither I have long term vision….
I live one day at a time and just do what my heart says and yes God has been kind enough to bless me with success cases through my Intuitive Training and Therapies.
I am blessed to have a supportive family.
I am blessed to have clients who love to call me Didima, Di, Baima etc etc…..some have made me their daughter and some mother and some sister and that’s complete acceptance.
How to Discover Your Deepest, Darkest “Core Wound”
by Mateo Sol
In life, we all have the tendency to believe that we are unworthy on some deep, undefinable level. Whether we believe that we are unworthy of happiness, pleasure, love or fulfillment, we all have a “core wound” deep inside that varies according to our circumstances and experiences. This deep, fundamental wound is the result of the foundational beliefs that we were taught since birth, contributing to the faulty self-image that we continue to carry around with us to this very day.
Our core wounds are our deepest seated pains in life. They are our oldest and most miserable friends. For most of us, these core wounds within us are ruled by the following two mistaken beliefs:
1. “I am flawed and therefore a bad person.”
2. “I must change or fix something about myself in order to be acceptable.”
The Original Sin
Christian teachings make reference to our “core wound” all the time in the form of “original sin.” However, once we put aside the dogmatic associations connected with this notion, we see that “original sin” reveals something profound about our deep-rooted core wounds; how issues such as generational guilt, self-rejection, imbalanced self-esteem, and self-hatred has passed on from generation to generation.
Often, our core wounds start in childhood. When we are little we are free. We experience unconditional love and acceptance for all of our needs, and we are granted full expression of ourselves. We don’t experience any inner fragmentation or limitations at all. However, at some point during our childhood we began to experience constraints. As we “ate from the Tree of Knowledge” we slowly came up against invalidation from our parents, elders, and peers. We began to experience disapproval and punishment for being our authentic selves. And so, our core wounds began to deepen.
As our core wounds began to deepen throughout our childhoods, pubescent years, and subsequent adult years, we began to put up barriers of protection to keep other people from hurting us. Although in many cases this protected us, in the end it served to trap us inside, limiting our ability to experience true freedom and authenticity in our day-to-day lives and in every one of our relationships.
Our core wounds are the cause of most of the fatigue we experience in daily life, preventing us from accessing the huge stores of untapped energy, and potential within us. They are also what makes solitude so refreshing as they give us a momentary respite from the lies we tell ourselves and others to protect our deep, unhealed gashes.
Getting to Know Your Core Wound
Everyone experiences their “core wound” differently. Depending on your Soul Age, level of emotional sensitivity, and the level of rejection you faced while growing up, your core wound could be an irritating scab, or a festering laceration.
How is your core wound manifesting itself in your life? Read the signs below:
You enter relationships in the hopes of finding what you lack inside in the other person (i.e. you want to “feel complete”).
You often feel inadequate, and you have the following thoughts: “I am not enough,” “I am incomplete,” “I am unlovable,” “I don’t count,” “I am imperfect,” “I am powerless,” and “I am bad.”
You constantly feel a sense of abandonment, resentment and/or betrayal.
You have a perfectionistic attitude towards life (i.e. you gain your self-esteem from the outcome of your actions instead of the intention behind your actions).
You suffer from chronic anxiety. This comes as a result of anticipating the emotional pain of being found unworthy, which deep down you think is true.
You repeat the same old mistakes in relationships. This is because you are trapped in a habitual mindset and don’t feel courageous enough to make a change.
You find happiness in your misery because it’s a source of attention in the form of sympathy from other people.
You have a strong Shadow Self.
You behave in dishonest/inauthentic ways that are not true to the person you really are. You behave in this way to gain the acceptance of others.
You feel numb inside. You feel a sense of meaninglessness and disconnection from the world around you. This is the ultimate defense mechanism: feeling nothing.
You are your own worst critic (i.e. you constantly remind yourself how much of a “loser” or a “failure” you are).
You always feel like an outcast, and you can never quite fit in with anyone. Instead of appreciating your uniqueness and seeing it as an opportunity, you see it as a curse.
The larger your core wound is, the more you experience Soul Loss. Often, this is passed onto the people around you (like a virus) — especially children, who are the most susceptible and vulnerable.
Healing Your Core Wound
The most suffering we experience from our core wounds revolves around the false self-images we present to the world. On one hand we go through life pretending to be very important, and on the other we believe that we are unworthy, ugly, dirty, unlovable, and stupid deep down.
The entire basis of the process of soulwork is to discover all of these little bits and pieces within ourselves that are broken, and to first become aware of them.
We need to examine our wounds carefully, wash them using psychological and spiritual tools, and keep them clean until they heal. A good place to begin this process is by admitting that we are lying to ourselves. We need to stop avoiding the truth about our lives, and develop the courage to face our flaws and erroneous perceptions.