Category Archives: Joy

Positive or Negative?

*How To Instantly Read Someone’s Personality With One Question*

One type of question can indirectly reveal a lot about a person’s personality.

Asking someone what they think about other people reveals much about their own personality.

*The reason is that people tend to see more of their own qualities in others.*

The generous person sees others as generous and the selfish person sees others as selfish.

Dr Dustin Wood, the study’s first author, said:

_“A huge suite of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively._

_The simple tendency to see people negatively indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.”_

The conclusions come from a series of three studies.

In one people were asked to judge the positive and negative characteristics of three other people.

The more positively they judged those people, the more happy, enthusiastic, capable and emotionally stable they turned out to be themselves.

People who judged others more positively also turned out to be more satisfied with their own lives.

Set against this, those who judged others more negatively had higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behaviour.

The researchers even returned to the same people a year later and found the results were the same.

This suggests that what people’s ratings of others say about themselves remains stable over time.

Personality disorders are often diagnosed at least partly by how people view others, the authors write:

_“…although narcissists may perceive others as being uninteresting or worthless, this may not reflect how they see themselves._

_Similarly, individuals displaying behaviors typical of paranoid personality disorder may believe that others are malevolent and untrustworthy, even though they may not see themselves that way._

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_Machiavellianism is usually measured in part by asking individuals the extent to which they perceive a lack of sincerity, integrity, or selflessness in others’ actions, and narcissistic behavior is thought to be prompted in part by a belief that other people are inferior, uninteresting, and unworthy of attention.”_

The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Wood et al., 2010).

Acceptance

This was the Today’s Topic in my Parenting Whatsap group…

A to Z of Parenting begins with Acceptance and what is Acceptance?

Today was watching the movie Hichki, where the Actress Rani Mukerjee had some rear disease called Tourette Syndrome where she created some noise continuously and that was a shameful thing for her Dad….

As the father never accepted her daughter completely, he never stayed with them.

Luckily she had an understanding and loving Mother and her younger brother who accepted her Completely…..and so she could convert her weakness into her biggest strength.

She wanted to be a teacher but due to her problem she was rejected by 18 schools and again dad wanted her to take up a bank job where she might not have to speak much but she was adamant on being a teacher.

Finally she was appointed by one school but the class she got was of rowdy kids from slums….even children wanted her teacher to leave them but she accepted them and stood by them and transform them.

True Acceptance is accept yourself the way you are, don’t compare yourself with others and then only you can fly high…..she taught this kids also the same things by asking them to write what they are scared of and then asked them to make a paper plane and fly it in air…..

Easy simple Activity but that’s the Real meaning of Life.

Why am I writing all this, you must be wondering…

I am writing this as even I was never accepted for what I am ~ neither as a child nor as an adult with the healing profession by few but nothing stopped me as I accepted myself competely as I am….

Yes I am not smart enough.

I am not expressive enough.

I can’t carry myself well enough.

I don’t have sense to speak.

I don’t have a Goal, neither I have long term vision….

I live one day at a time and just do what my heart says and yes God has been kind enough to bless me with success cases through my Intuitive Training and Therapies.

I am blessed to have a supportive family.

I am blessed to have clients who love to call me Didima, Di, Baima etc etc…..some have made me their daughter and some mother and some sister and that’s complete acceptance.

Divine Acceptance

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Winning and Losing ⛳️

I read a quote everyday and ponder on it…

Today Read this :

Success is not measured by what you do compared to what others do; it is measured by what you do with the ability God gave you.

Zig Zigler

Than the stream of though followed….

Most people connect with me and ask please bless my child his exams are there or bless my New Bussiness…..

Blessings is God’s Grace but let’s understand one thing which is very very Important specially when you want your children to succeed in First place.

Please avoid Rat Race….its tooo much pressure on your children.

Regardless of whether I come in first place, second place, or last place, as long as I used my God-given talents to the best of my ability and did the best that I am capable of doing, I have most certainly succeeded.

That is because the real difference between a winner and a loser is their attitude

even if I get passed over for the promotion or do not receive recognition for my work, I can still be a winner.

I set my own personal standards; I define my own success in life.

Divine Success

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Release and Heal Emotional Energy Blocks

You know your list of “should” and “should not’s.”

‘I should have gotten out of bed on time.’

‘I should exercise more.’

And you know your should not’s;

‘I should not have yelled at my child.’

‘I should not have eaten that second piece of chocolate cake!’

When you find yourself repeating a behavioral pattern you have judgement about, it’s highly likely due to a conflict between your conscious and subconscious mind.

Often where the conscious and subconscious mind are in conflict, there is an Emotional Energy Block.

The good news is, this Emotional Energy Block is actually showing you where your inner work lives.

There are reasons you can’t “talk” away these blocks with positive thinking.

Just like a splinter rises to the surface to be plucked out, there is a strong body/mind sensation trying to find its way to the surface of your awareness for healing.

Through healing therapies , you can learn to stop decades of repetitive painful self-destructive behavior.

By awakening Energy Blocks, you’ll experiences surges of energy that will help you be more open in your relationships, feel more relaxed and alive, be more physically healthy and achieve your goals.

Divine Release Emotional Energy Block.

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Anxiety Vs Patience

This is a Zibu Symbol which made me think about Anxiety.

Anxiety is “the rust of life;” after all, it feeds on us, corroding and destroying our faith and certainty and obscuring the beauty we perceive in life.

Unfortunately, anxiety is something that generally seems to plague us no matter how much we try to avoid it or prevent it.

Perhaps that is because it is so deeply rooted in our emotions–fear, uncertainty, apprehension, failure, and so on.

Or maybe it is a result of trying to manage it in unhealthy and ineffective ways.

Regardless, the best way to handle it–and thwart it–is through complete trust and faith in our Creator.

This requires complete surrender of our worries–it means evicting anxiety so that peace may come inside.

Our humanity creates a desire to want to be in control of our lives–to know that everything that occurs to us in life is a result of our actions, or inactions.

But it is impossible for us to control everything. In all honesty, it is difficult enough for us to control a few things, let alone the infinite possibilities that confront us, or have the potential to.

I have found that the people who are happiest in life are not necessarily those who are well off–the wealthy, the powerful, and the famous.

These individuals tend to be cynical and critical of life, often harboring unhappiness and encouraging those around them not to trust life either.

In contrast, the truly happiest individuals tend to be those who trust life–those who go about living open, caring, and compassionate lives.

Trusting in God’s Providence truly is the best preventative and remedy to the rust that feeds on the beauty of life.

Let go of your anxieties, your worries, and your cares… place them into the arms of your Creator who made you and watches over you with unconditional love and unfathomable passion.

You will find your worries becoming all the less, until one day, they simply are no more. and certainty and obscuring the beauty we perceive in life.

Unfortunately, anxiety is something that generally seems to plague us no matter how much we try to avoid it or prevent it.

Perhaps that is because it is so deeply rooted in our emotions–fear, uncertainty, apprehension, failure, and so on.

Or maybe it is a result of trying to manage it in unhealthy and ineffective ways.

Regardless, the best way to handle it–and thwart it–is through complete trust and faith in our Creator.

This requires complete surrender of our worries–it means evicting anxiety so that peace may come inside.

Our humanity creates a desire to want to be in control of our lives–to know that everything that occurs to us in life is a result of our actions, or inactions.

But it is impossible for us to control everything. In all honesty, it is difficult enough for us to control a few things, let alone the infinite possibilities that confront us, or have the potential to.

I have found that the people who are happiest in life are not necessarily those who are well off–the wealthy, the powerful, and the famous.

These individuals tend to be cynical and critical of life, often harboring unhappiness and encouraging those around them not to trust life either.

In contrast, the truly happiest individuals tend to be those who trust life–those who go about living open, caring, and compassionate lives.

Trusting in God’s Providence truly is the best preventative and remedy to the rust that feeds on the beauty of life.

Let go of your anxieties, your worries, and your cares… place them into the arms of your Creator who made you and watches over you with unconditional love and unfathomable passion.

You will find your worries becoming all the less, until one day, they simply are no more.

Divine Patience

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Our core Wound

How to Discover Your Deepest, Darkest “Core Wound”

by Mateo Sol

In life, we all have the tendency to believe that we are unworthy on some deep, undefinable level. Whether we believe that we are unworthy of happiness, pleasure, love or fulfillment, we all have a “core wound” deep inside that varies according to our circumstances and experiences. This deep, fundamental wound is the result of the foundational beliefs that we were taught since birth, contributing to the faulty self-image that we continue to carry around with us to this very day.

Our core wounds are our deepest seated pains in life. They are our oldest and most miserable friends. For most of us, these core wounds within us are ruled by the following two mistaken beliefs:

1. “I am flawed and therefore a bad person.”

2. “I must change or fix something about myself in order to be acceptable.”

The Original Sin

Christian teachings make reference to our “core wound” all the time in the form of “original sin.” However, once we put aside the dogmatic associations connected with this notion, we see that “original sin” reveals something profound about our deep-rooted core wounds; how issues such as generational guilt, self-rejection, imbalanced self-esteem, and self-hatred has passed on from generation to generation.

Often, our core wounds start in childhood. When we are little we are free. We experience unconditional love and acceptance for all of our needs, and we are granted full expression of ourselves. We don’t experience any inner fragmentation or limitations at all. However, at some point during our childhood we began to experience constraints. As we “ate from the Tree of Knowledge” we slowly came up against invalidation from our parents, elders, and peers. We began to experience disapproval and punishment for being our authentic selves. And so, our core wounds began to deepen.

As our core wounds began to deepen throughout our childhoods, pubescent years, and subsequent adult years, we began to put up barriers of protection to keep other people from hurting us. Although in many cases this protected us, in the end it served to trap us inside, limiting our ability to experience true freedom and authenticity in our day-to-day lives and in every one of our relationships.

Our core wounds are the cause of most of the fatigue we experience in daily life, preventing us from accessing the huge stores of untapped energy, and potential within us. They are also what makes solitude so refreshing as they give us a momentary respite from the lies we tell ourselves and others to protect our deep, unhealed gashes.

Getting to Know Your Core Wound

Everyone experiences their “core wound” differently. Depending on your Soul Age, level of emotional sensitivity, and the level of rejection you faced while growing up, your core wound could be an irritating scab, or a festering laceration.

How is your core wound manifesting itself in your life? Read the signs below:

You enter relationships in the hopes of finding what you lack inside in the other person (i.e. you want to “feel complete”).

You often feel inadequate, and you have the following thoughts: “I am not enough,” “I am incomplete,” “I am unlovable,” “I don’t count,” “I am imperfect,” “I am powerless,” and “I am bad.”

You constantly feel a sense of abandonment, resentment and/or betrayal.

You have a perfectionistic attitude towards life (i.e. you gain your self-esteem from the outcome of your actions instead of the intention behind your actions).

You suffer from chronic anxiety. This comes as a result of anticipating the emotional pain of being found unworthy, which deep down you think is true.

You repeat the same old mistakes in relationships. This is because you are trapped in a habitual mindset and don’t feel courageous enough to make a change.

You find happiness in your misery because it’s a source of attention in the form of sympathy from other people.

You have a strong Shadow Self.

You behave in dishonest/inauthentic ways that are not true to the person you really are. You behave in this way to gain the acceptance of others.

You feel numb inside. You feel a sense of meaninglessness and disconnection from the world around you. This is the ultimate defense mechanism: feeling nothing.

You are your own worst critic (i.e. you constantly remind yourself how much of a “loser” or a “failure” you are).

You always feel like an outcast, and you can never quite fit in with anyone. Instead of appreciating your uniqueness and seeing it as an opportunity, you see it as a curse.

The larger your core wound is, the more you experience Soul Loss. Often, this is passed onto the people around you (like a virus) — especially children, who are the most susceptible and vulnerable.

Healing Your Core Wound

The most suffering we experience from our core wounds revolves around the false self-images we present to the world. On one hand we go through life pretending to be very important, and on the other we believe that we are unworthy, ugly, dirty, unlovable, and stupid deep down.

The entire basis of the process of soulwork is to discover all of these little bits and pieces within ourselves that are broken, and to first become aware of them.

We need to examine our wounds carefully, wash them using psychological and spiritual tools, and keep them clean until they heal. A good place to begin this process is by admitting that we are lying to ourselves. We need to stop avoiding the truth about our lives, and develop the courage to face our flaws and erroneous perceptions.

Resistance

Resistance

The human DNA holds many things. Including patterns and belief systems and conditioning of centuries. It has become so ingrained in you; that it is reflected in your way of thinking, feeling and living your life. One of the patterns that is crippling humans is Resistance.

What is Resistance? It is a block. A nonacceptance. It is shutting the door on the face of someone or something. It is an emotion of pushing away what is coming to you. It is moving against the flow.

Though it may seem that one resists the negative aspects of Life like pain or problems; we find the contrary to be true. You believe life is a continuous struggle. You accept pain and hardships for you have been programmed by society that Life is hard. Challenges are more acceptable than Achievements. In this energy of Resistance, you resist health, happiness, joy, wholeness and even greatness.

One of the primary reasons you don’t heal is that you resist healing. Certain belief systems and patterns are behind this. You think the health issues you face are normal. You don’t believe in the wholeness, the perfection of the human body. Imperfection is more acceptable.

You become so attached to your health issues that you don’t want to let them go. At the subconscious level you hold onto them because they are the source of the care and attention in your life and you don’t want to lose that. So you hold onto your disease and don’t want to let go.

Similar is your attitude to happiness, joy in your life. You don’t let go of your pain because it has been with you so long that you are used to it. It is familiar. You don’t believe that happiness, joy can last . Moreover you don’t believe you deserve it. So you push away abundance; be it in the form of Money, Relationships or Success.

Another big area of Resistance is in the area of Spiritual growth. You resist sitting in meditation, resist talking to the Masters, resist being called Spiritual for somewhere deep in your soul is the fear; that Spirituality means losing your favourite things of life, things that really matter to you. That is why inspite of the deep calling in your heart you take so long to start living a Spiritual life.

Resistance makes life harder for it is moving against the flow. It is resisting what is meant to be yours. Be it a Lesson or a Love.

Archangel Jophiel through Satarupa

Bitterness ?

Today someone asked a question….what if close family tries to stop us from reaching out True Potential…..

And the question arose so many questions in my mind on how to answer this query in the best possible way….and here what you ask you receive….

Sharing this wonderful Insight which is slightly Long but worth a read and we can also discuss it for more clarification…

Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims, in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing.

It is natural to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected.

We consciously or unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for the loss of it when the universe puts something else in our path.

Most of the time, we work through these feelings and they pass.

Occasionally, our anger and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness.

Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain.

Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural element of our emotional palette.

When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of working through it.

The nature of bitterness is rooted in the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a rationale.

We may feel that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full extent.

And to be bitter is, in essence, to cut ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt.

But just as bitter feelings can be self-defeating, so too can the release of bitterness be life-affirming in a way that few other emotional experiences are.

When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a world filled with delight and fulfillment unlike any we knew while in the clutches of bitterness.

The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light and warmth touch our souls.

Divesting yourself of bitter feelings can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving on.

Even when your bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive situations too.

Healing pain can be challenging but may be easier if you remind yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional state.

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n time, you will discover that letting go of your bitterness frees you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again celebrate the possibility of the more wonderful life you deserve.

Divine Expansion

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Awareness of your Thoughts ♥️

To help myself become more aware,

I asked the Universe to give me a gentle nudge to bring me back to the present whenever my mind has taken over and is “having a party at my expense.”

That gentle nudge happens by me bumping myself or dropping something, a loud noise, or a siren or an alarm going off.

All of these things are signals to me that my mind has taken off and to come back to the present.

When I receive these signals I stop immediately and ask myself

“What am I thinking?

What am I feeling?

Am I aware?”

And of course in the moment I do that, I am aware.

The very moment you ask yourself if you are aware, you are there.

You are aware.

Divine Awareness

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Hayati and Ruhani ?

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Stephen Levine

What a powerful way to look at life! If I could wake up each morning and ask myself this question, and then make it a priority to answer it to the best of my abilities, I am sure that I would not have any grudges or regrets. Nor would I have things left unsaid or undone in my life. This is the most authentic way to live our lives–telling others everything that needs to be said when we have the ability to do so.

If I were going to die tomorrow… are there things I have said that were unkind to those I love? Did I have an argument with my spouse or siblings and leave it on bad terms? Do I want my last words to one of my daughters to be words of anger or frustration? Of course not!

Keeping our mind clear of regrets and grudges frees us up to being fully present in the here and now. It allows us to keep our life in perspective and to free ourselves from those feelings of anger, resentment, and pride. Do not wait for the perfect time to apologize… that time may never come.

Today’s Challenge: Clear your mind today of at least one thing that needs to be said.

Questions to consider:

Is it morbid to think of the possibility of dying tomorrow? Why do a lot of people avoid thinking this way?

What is the most important situation that you would like to make right in your life?

Why might we not make the calls that would make things better, or that would give us a chance to talk to people we care for?

If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives.

Divine Life

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