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Our core Wound

How to Discover Your Deepest, Darkest “Core Wound”

by Mateo Sol

In life, we all have the tendency to believe that we are unworthy on some deep, undefinable level. Whether we believe that we are unworthy of happiness, pleasure, love or fulfillment, we all have a “core wound” deep inside that varies according to our circumstances and experiences. This deep, fundamental wound is the result of the foundational beliefs that we were taught since birth, contributing to the faulty self-image that we continue to carry around with us to this very day.

Our core wounds are our deepest seated pains in life. They are our oldest and most miserable friends. For most of us, these core wounds within us are ruled by the following two mistaken beliefs:

1. “I am flawed and therefore a bad person.”

2. “I must change or fix something about myself in order to be acceptable.”

The Original Sin

Christian teachings make reference to our “core wound” all the time in the form of “original sin.” However, once we put aside the dogmatic associations connected with this notion, we see that “original sin” reveals something profound about our deep-rooted core wounds; how issues such as generational guilt, self-rejection, imbalanced self-esteem, and self-hatred has passed on from generation to generation.

Often, our core wounds start in childhood. When we are little we are free. We experience unconditional love and acceptance for all of our needs, and we are granted full expression of ourselves. We don’t experience any inner fragmentation or limitations at all. However, at some point during our childhood we began to experience constraints. As we “ate from the Tree of Knowledge” we slowly came up against invalidation from our parents, elders, and peers. We began to experience disapproval and punishment for being our authentic selves. And so, our core wounds began to deepen.

As our core wounds began to deepen throughout our childhoods, pubescent years, and subsequent adult years, we began to put up barriers of protection to keep other people from hurting us. Although in many cases this protected us, in the end it served to trap us inside, limiting our ability to experience true freedom and authenticity in our day-to-day lives and in every one of our relationships.

Our core wounds are the cause of most of the fatigue we experience in daily life, preventing us from accessing the huge stores of untapped energy, and potential within us. They are also what makes solitude so refreshing as they give us a momentary respite from the lies we tell ourselves and others to protect our deep, unhealed gashes.

Getting to Know Your Core Wound

Everyone experiences their “core wound” differently. Depending on your Soul Age, level of emotional sensitivity, and the level of rejection you faced while growing up, your core wound could be an irritating scab, or a festering laceration.

How is your core wound manifesting itself in your life? Read the signs below:

You enter relationships in the hopes of finding what you lack inside in the other person (i.e. you want to “feel complete”).

You often feel inadequate, and you have the following thoughts: “I am not enough,” “I am incomplete,” “I am unlovable,” “I don’t count,” “I am imperfect,” “I am powerless,” and “I am bad.”

You constantly feel a sense of abandonment, resentment and/or betrayal.

You have a perfectionistic attitude towards life (i.e. you gain your self-esteem from the outcome of your actions instead of the intention behind your actions).

You suffer from chronic anxiety. This comes as a result of anticipating the emotional pain of being found unworthy, which deep down you think is true.

You repeat the same old mistakes in relationships. This is because you are trapped in a habitual mindset and don’t feel courageous enough to make a change.

You find happiness in your misery because it’s a source of attention in the form of sympathy from other people.

You have a strong Shadow Self.

You behave in dishonest/inauthentic ways that are not true to the person you really are. You behave in this way to gain the acceptance of others.

You feel numb inside. You feel a sense of meaninglessness and disconnection from the world around you. This is the ultimate defense mechanism: feeling nothing.

You are your own worst critic (i.e. you constantly remind yourself how much of a “loser” or a “failure” you are).

You always feel like an outcast, and you can never quite fit in with anyone. Instead of appreciating your uniqueness and seeing it as an opportunity, you see it as a curse.

The larger your core wound is, the more you experience Soul Loss. Often, this is passed onto the people around you (like a virus) — especially children, who are the most susceptible and vulnerable.

Healing Your Core Wound

The most suffering we experience from our core wounds revolves around the false self-images we present to the world. On one hand we go through life pretending to be very important, and on the other we believe that we are unworthy, ugly, dirty, unlovable, and stupid deep down.

The entire basis of the process of soulwork is to discover all of these little bits and pieces within ourselves that are broken, and to first become aware of them.

We need to examine our wounds carefully, wash them using psychological and spiritual tools, and keep them clean until they heal. A good place to begin this process is by admitting that we are lying to ourselves. We need to stop avoiding the truth about our lives, and develop the courage to face our flaws and erroneous perceptions.

Awareness of your Thoughts ♥️

To help myself become more aware,

I asked the Universe to give me a gentle nudge to bring me back to the present whenever my mind has taken over and is “having a party at my expense.”

That gentle nudge happens by me bumping myself or dropping something, a loud noise, or a siren or an alarm going off.

All of these things are signals to me that my mind has taken off and to come back to the present.

When I receive these signals I stop immediately and ask myself

“What am I thinking?

What am I feeling?

Am I aware?”

And of course in the moment I do that, I am aware.

The very moment you ask yourself if you are aware, you are there.

You are aware.

Divine Awareness

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Hayati and Ruhani ?

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Stephen Levine

What a powerful way to look at life! If I could wake up each morning and ask myself this question, and then make it a priority to answer it to the best of my abilities, I am sure that I would not have any grudges or regrets. Nor would I have things left unsaid or undone in my life. This is the most authentic way to live our lives–telling others everything that needs to be said when we have the ability to do so.

If I were going to die tomorrow… are there things I have said that were unkind to those I love? Did I have an argument with my spouse or siblings and leave it on bad terms? Do I want my last words to one of my daughters to be words of anger or frustration? Of course not!

Keeping our mind clear of regrets and grudges frees us up to being fully present in the here and now. It allows us to keep our life in perspective and to free ourselves from those feelings of anger, resentment, and pride. Do not wait for the perfect time to apologize… that time may never come.

Today’s Challenge: Clear your mind today of at least one thing that needs to be said.

Questions to consider:

Is it morbid to think of the possibility of dying tomorrow? Why do a lot of people avoid thinking this way?

What is the most important situation that you would like to make right in your life?

Why might we not make the calls that would make things better, or that would give us a chance to talk to people we care for?

If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives.

Divine Life

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I can do it ~ Louise Hay

If you want to create better health in your body, there are definitely some things you must not do: You must not get angry at your body for any reason. Anger is another affirmation, and it’s telling your body that you hate it, or parts of it. Your cells are very aware of every thought you have.

Your body knows how to heal itself. If you feed it healthy foods and beverages, give it exercise and sufficient sleep, and think happy thoughts, then its work is easy. The cells are working in a happy, healthy atmosphere. However, if you’re a couch potato who feeds your body junk food and lots of diet soda, and you skimp on sleep and are grouchy and irritable all the time, then the cells in your body are working at a disadvantage—they’re in a disagreeable atmosphere. If this is the case, it’s no wonder that your body isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be.

You’ll never create good health by talking or thinking about your illness. Good health comes from love and appreciation. You want to put as much love into your body as you possibly can. Talk to it and stroke it in loving ways. If there’s a part of your body that’s ailing or dis-eased, then you want to treat it as you would a sick little child. Tell it how much you love it, and that you’re doing everything you can to help it get well quickly.

If you’re sick, then you want to do more than just go to the doctor and have him or her give you a chemical to take care of the symptom. Your body is telling you that something you’re doing isn’t good for your body. You need to learn more about health—the more you learn, the easier it is to take care of your body. You don’t want to choose to feel like a victim. If you do, you’ll just be giving your power away. You could go to a health-food store and pick up one of the many good books that teach you how to keep yourself healthy, or you could see a nutritionist and have a healthy diet created just for you, but whatever you do, create a healthy, happy mental atmosphere. Be a willing participant in your own health plan.

I believe that we create every so-called illness in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Our body is always talking to us; we just need to take the time to listen. Every cell within our body responds to every single thought we think and every word we speak.

You can choose to think thoughts that create a mental atmosphere that contributes to illness, or you can choose to think thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere both within you and around you.

Positive Affirmations for Health

I enjoy the foods that are best for my body. I love every cell of my body.

I look forward to a healthy old age because I take loving care of my body now.

I am constantly discovering new ways to improve my health.

Healing happens! I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body to do its healing work naturally.

My body is always doing its best to create perfect health.

Fight Vs Flight

Choose What You Fight…

I once met a very successful business woman and I asked her to share her secret with me.

She smiled and said to me..

I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…

I stopped fighting over unnecessary issues with my spouse…

I stopped fighting for attention…

I stopped fighting to meet up with public expectation…

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…

“And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. Then I started winning big”.

That was the day I gave up on small fights.

Some fights are not worth your time.

Fight to make your visions and dreams come alive!

Fight the good fight of faith!

Fight for your destiny not for your ego!

Entrepreneurs shouldn’t have time for unnecessary fights!

Visionaries don’t cluster their mind with nonsense bickering!

Always ask, what is this fight adding to my destiny, my goal, my progress?

Choose what you fight for in 2018 as a year for greatness.

Compliments of the season to all the game changers.

2017 ~ 2018 Journey

It’s a write up, I loved it…

An insightful New Year Message:

**Last year, I had a surgery and my gallbladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time.

**The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favourite job in the Publishing company in which I had spent 30 years of my life

**The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father.

**And in the same year my son failed in his medical exams because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.

At the end he wrote: Alas! It was such a bad year!!

When the writer’s wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper, left the room silently and came back with another paper which she placed on the side of her husband’s writing.

The husband found the following written on the paper:

**Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain.

**I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace.

**The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.

**The same year, God blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability.

At the end she wrote: Last year was an immense blessing of God and it passed well!!

See!! The same incidents but different viewpoints.

*Moral:* In our daily lives we must see that it’s not happiness that makes us grateful but gratefulness that makes us happy.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for!!

Your current position is somebody’s future expectation.

Your life now is somebody’s prayer request.

Don’t let the devil point at you that somebody is doing better than you. It is a strategy for ingratitude.

Anything you celebrate multiplies, anything you despise diminishes.

Appreciation is the vehicle for acceleration.

Gratitude is the lift to great altitude.

To see what God will do, you must acknowledge what God has done.

Stay grateful. Assess 2017 with a grateful heart and thank God for 2018.Happy New Year.

Want to Welcome 2018

Now is a good time to reflect upon our patience as another year ends.

With the new year approaching, most likely we are thinking about goals and things we would like to accomplish this coming year, as well as reflecting on our accomplishments and shortcomings of the past year.

Often times, however, there seems to be a sense of urgency to achieve our New Year’s resolutions and to make the changes in our lives that we wish to see.

We must remember though, that no one changes in a day… it often takes a lifetime.

Sacred Vows

Sacred Vows
BY MADISYN TAYLOR

A sacred vow, once spoken, becomes a part of your existence forevermore.

Speech is a vehicle for vows, but the sacred vows we speak are more than just words. When we make a promise, a subtle yet powerful shift takes place in our souls where intentions are housed. A vow is both a tool we employ in order to facilitate transformation within ourselves and an expression of will. Thus, to make an oath is to communicate to the universe and our deeper selves our commitment to the principles most important to us. Fulfilling a sacred vow–whether it is as complex as “’till death do us part” or as simple as “I promise”–challenges us, exercising our willpower and aiding personal growth. 
When we speak a sacred vow out loud rather than reciting it in our minds or recording it on paper, our voices project our promises into the deepest reaches of the universe. It is important that we remember that a vow made with the sincerest of intentions has the power to carry on past our earthly lifetimes. A well-chosen vow encourages commitment and dedication. The presence or approval of a spiritual teacher is not necessary to success, as true oaths are a product of the heart. 
A sacred vow, once spoken, becomes a part of your existence forevermore. Your view of the world around you may change, and your predominant thoughts and feelings will no doubt evolve with time, but the spirit in which your oaths were spoken will remain unaffected. It is up to you to determine how you will stay true to your vows while your inner- and outer-world existence is transformed. Your strength and character will inevitably be tested as circumstances make keeping promises increasingly challenging, but after you have shown yourself steadfast many times, your appreciation of the sanctity of vows will be cemented in your mind and soul.

Please be careful before you Vow….

Open Heart 


The heart is like a flower – unless it is open it cannot release its fragrance into the world.
The fragrance of the heart is made up of the qualities and virtues of our spirit.
Most of us have learned how to keep our heart closed in a world that would trample all over us if we let it.
Being open hearted today seems to require tremendous courage.

It is a courage which comes only when we realise that no one can hurt us, no matter what they say or do.

They may hurt our body, but if we have realised we are spirit, nothing outside can touch us, if we so decide.

Little by little, practice opening your heart to those you think have hurt you.

Realise it wasn’t them that hurt you, it was yourself.

And it taught you not to trust and you closed your heart.
A closed heart is in need of opening. And when you do, you will have begun to heal yourself.
I am opening my Heart ?
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Happy Marriage 

Marriage advice

Let your love be stronger than your hate or anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.

Believe the best rather than the worst.

People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

The person you choose to marry is deserving of the courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

Please hand this down to your children and your children’s children.
Divine Togetherness filled with Love and Happiness.