Expectation from others is root cause of pain in relationship …
We do good ..we expect same from others …this is where true problem lies ..
Sun gives sunlight ..but never expects …trees give shade n fruits but no expectation in return ..
That’s the reason our ancestor worship Sun .. ..trees etc ..
The moment we drop expectation from others .. we too come into the category where people start worshiping with respect n gratitude ..
Expect from self …it will take us up new height of achievement …expect from our health , we will lead medicine free life …expect from our brain , we will soar national height n become biggest whatever you do ..
Set the target for self …increase it every week ..every month …n see the new leader in you emerging ..because our expectation with self can make you touch the sky..
Expectation from others will give only pain , frustration , tears , breakoff , aloness , anger ,and feeling of revenge …
Such things are slow poison ..which destroys us permanently from root level ..
Son, daughter ,spouse , parents , friends , relatives , office collegue have very very limited role in our life ….they are separate identity ..separate soul …they cannot and never be our mirror identity …and expecting from them returns of your good deeds is just degrading our value in our eyes ..
When we do charity to any beggar …we do it without any expectation …that process fills the heart with joy and gratitude ..
Because we know , beggar do not have capacity and ability to return your good deeds towards you ..
Live like king ..think like a king …act like a king …just keep “donating” good deeds who so ever comes in need to you ..
You are capable ..that’s why people take / seek ur support ..
They cannot return your “donation ” , because they are not king like you …
Expectation can be permanently drop from your body thru consistent “Meditation ” & “self healing ” …
Yesterday a client came with an issue that whenever there is a Joyful moments in her life, she is so fearful that something negative is going to happen. Even while watching someone’s wedding video she would feel the fear and would pray for happiness for the couple.
This was going on since many years but her reason to connect now was, her son was about to get married and she was worried and used to get fearful thoughts whether she can enjoy this celebration with her husbands or something would go wrong before the wedding.
Working upon her subconscious beliefs with Redikall the angelic message was
‘ You are perhaps quite sensitive to rude, rough and arrogant behaviour from others. This often disturbs you. You have options here. Either escape such people or circumstances by maintaining a distance or Intend and manifest courtesy and polite behaviour.
Reading this my Intuition guided me that there are instances in her childhood where she has experienced someone spoiling the happiness during Joyful moments and immediately her face showed her approval.
Her Aunt ( father’s sister) was always creating unharmonious situation in other people’s life for stupid reasons.
I worked on her experience by chanting I Revive Recognise Realign Reorient and Reposition this experience creating negating fear….within 20 mins her Aura was shining.
Later I gave her a Redikall Magical Statement 🌺
I Invite courteous and polite approach from one and all and I am enjoying Joyful Celebration with my Loved ones.
She was so grateful that a big fear was lifted up her chest and she could breathe deeply with Ease.
🌹A No No No story🌹
Yesterday I was in a business training where the trainer asked us a following question
“If I give you 1cr rupees will you jump from the plane?”
Before I go further I would like you to answer this question.
*What would you reply?*
Most of the people in the room said *”No No No”* there where few of the other interesting answers but a NO was the maximum.
On this the trainer said “you all answered me before I could even inform you wether I’ll give you a parachute or not, or even if the plane is in the sky or on ground.”
This really made me go to all those places in my life where I just say NO NO NO without even considering it on a auto pilot.
Are you doing the same?
Where, when, what, why and how have you made a NO NO NO a auto pilot in your life?
Have you ever wondered how many NO’s are you using from the life you desire and from what you know is possible?
If you would choose to live your life with 🌹YES🌹
*YES* I can.
*YES* let’s do it.
*YES* I love you.
*YES* I am different.
*YES* I don’t like you.
*YES* I want money.
Won’t this crate more ease in your life?👍
✔️Are you willing to have a YES life?✔️
2 quick questions for you…
1) Are men really from Mars?
2) Are women from Venus?
I’m sure you’ve heard this reference many times before, and the implication is that we’re so different, men and women might as well be from different planets.
The reality is, we are equal in many respects – especially when it comes to our basic human needs like safety, love, belonging, and our desire to become the most we can be. But we are also different… after all, we are individuals with unique experiences.
This can be seen in how we each think, react, and communicate to the same circumstances.
For example, men tend to communicate through actions rather than words.
This behavior can be traced back to prehistoric times, when men did most of the hunting, providing, and solving challenges. In other words, they proved their worth by taking care of their family.
So when a woman tells a man about a problem, his immediate reaction is to fix it.
This approach can make women feel offended, insulted, or even angry–because women don’t necessarily want men to solve their problem.
Unless they specifically ask for that, what women really want is to be heard and understood. They want men to pay attention and connect with them emotionally.
However, men aren’t intentionally trying to be insulting or offensive. They’re just simply following their instinct and survival methods: “I see a problem, therefore I must help NOW.”
So women, if you find yourself getting irritated by men jumping in to solve a situation, problem or challenge, remember it’s not a statement about you or your abilities.
Men are simply acting on their knee-jerk desire to fix whatever they think is “broken.”
And men, I’d like to teach you 3 powerful words you can use every time a woman opens up to you about a challenge she’s experiencing. Instead of jumping into action, take a deep breath, and say these simple words…
“Tell me more.”
Then, let her know you listened by reflecting back and saying things like, “So what you’re saying is…” or “That must be really frustrating,” or “I can see why you’re upset.”
Now that you know about these differences, think about how you can use this knowledge to communicate more effectively with the opposite sex.
Remember this, Laila , women tend to show intimacy by sharing their feelings, while men tend to express their caring through their actions.”
– from a newsletter of Jack Canfield – Author of many books including Success Principles and How to get from where you are to where you want to be and Chicken soup for the Soul series 🙂
*How To Instantly Read Someone’s Personality With One Question*
One type of question can indirectly reveal a lot about a person’s personality.
Asking someone what they think about other people reveals much about their own personality.
*The reason is that people tend to see more of their own qualities in others.*
The generous person sees others as generous and the selfish person sees others as selfish.
Dr Dustin Wood, the study’s first author, said:
_“A huge suite of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively._
_The simple tendency to see people negatively indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.”_
The conclusions come from a series of three studies.
In one people were asked to judge the positive and negative characteristics of three other people.
The more positively they judged those people, the more happy, enthusiastic, capable and emotionally stable they turned out to be themselves.
People who judged others more positively also turned out to be more satisfied with their own lives.
Set against this, those who judged others more negatively had higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behaviour.
The researchers even returned to the same people a year later and found the results were the same.
This suggests that what people’s ratings of others say about themselves remains stable over time.
Personality disorders are often diagnosed at least partly by how people view others, the authors write:
_“…although narcissists may perceive others as being uninteresting or worthless, this may not reflect how they see themselves._
_Similarly, individuals displaying behaviors typical of paranoid personality disorder may believe that others are malevolent and untrustworthy, even though they may not see themselves that way._
_Machiavellianism is usually measured in part by asking individuals the extent to which they perceive a lack of sincerity, integrity, or selflessness in others’ actions, and narcissistic behavior is thought to be prompted in part by a belief that other people are inferior, uninteresting, and unworthy of attention.”_
The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Wood et al., 2010).
I read a quote everyday and ponder on it…
Today Read this :
Success is not measured by what you do compared to what others do; it is measured by what you do with the ability God gave you.
Than the stream of though followed….
Most people connect with me and ask please bless my child his exams are there or bless my New Bussiness…..
Blessings is God’s Grace but let’s understand one thing which is very very Important specially when you want your children to succeed in First place.
Please avoid Rat Race….its tooo much pressure on your children.
Regardless of whether I come in first place, second place, or last place, as long as I used my God-given talents to the best of my ability and did the best that I am capable of doing, I have most certainly succeeded.
That is because the real difference between a winner and a loser is their attitude
even if I get passed over for the promotion or do not receive recognition for my work, I can still be a winner.
I set my own personal standards; I define my own success in life.
Today someone asked a question….what if close family tries to stop us from reaching out True Potential…..
And the question arose so many questions in my mind on how to answer this query in the best possible way….and here what you ask you receive….
Sharing this wonderful Insight which is slightly Long but worth a read and we can also discuss it for more clarification…
Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims, in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing.
It is natural to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected.
We consciously or unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for the loss of it when the universe puts something else in our path.
Most of the time, we work through these feelings and they pass.
Occasionally, our anger and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness.
Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain.
Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural element of our emotional palette.
When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of working through it.
The nature of bitterness is rooted in the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a rationale.
We may feel that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full extent.
And to be bitter is, in essence, to cut ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt.
But just as bitter feelings can be self-defeating, so too can the release of bitterness be life-affirming in a way that few other emotional experiences are.
When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a world filled with delight and fulfillment unlike any we knew while in the clutches of bitterness.
The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light and warmth touch our souls.
Divesting yourself of bitter feelings can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving on.
Even when your bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive situations too.
Healing pain can be challenging but may be easier if you remind yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional state.
n time, you will discover that letting go of your bitterness frees you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again celebrate the possibility of the more wonderful life you deserve.
If you want to create better health in your body, there are definitely some things you must not do: You must not get angry at your body for any reason. Anger is another affirmation, and it’s telling your body that you hate it, or parts of it. Your cells are very aware of every thought you have.
Your body knows how to heal itself. If you feed it healthy foods and beverages, give it exercise and sufficient sleep, and think happy thoughts, then its work is easy. The cells are working in a happy, healthy atmosphere. However, if you’re a couch potato who feeds your body junk food and lots of diet soda, and you skimp on sleep and are grouchy and irritable all the time, then the cells in your body are working at a disadvantage—they’re in a disagreeable atmosphere. If this is the case, it’s no wonder that your body isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be.
You’ll never create good health by talking or thinking about your illness. Good health comes from love and appreciation. You want to put as much love into your body as you possibly can. Talk to it and stroke it in loving ways. If there’s a part of your body that’s ailing or dis-eased, then you want to treat it as you would a sick little child. Tell it how much you love it, and that you’re doing everything you can to help it get well quickly.
If you’re sick, then you want to do more than just go to the doctor and have him or her give you a chemical to take care of the symptom. Your body is telling you that something you’re doing isn’t good for your body. You need to learn more about health—the more you learn, the easier it is to take care of your body. You don’t want to choose to feel like a victim. If you do, you’ll just be giving your power away. You could go to a health-food store and pick up one of the many good books that teach you how to keep yourself healthy, or you could see a nutritionist and have a healthy diet created just for you, but whatever you do, create a healthy, happy mental atmosphere. Be a willing participant in your own health plan.
I believe that we create every so-called illness in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Our body is always talking to us; we just need to take the time to listen. Every cell within our body responds to every single thought we think and every word we speak.
You can choose to think thoughts that create a mental atmosphere that contributes to illness, or you can choose to think thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere both within you and around you.
Positive Affirmations for Health
I enjoy the foods that are best for my body. I love every cell of my body.
I look forward to a healthy old age because I take loving care of my body now.
I am constantly discovering new ways to improve my health.
Healing happens! I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body to do its healing work naturally.
My body is always doing its best to create perfect health.
Choose What You Fight…
I once met a very successful business woman and I asked her to share her secret with me.
She smiled and said to me..
I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.
I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…
I stopped fighting over unnecessary issues with my spouse…
I stopped fighting for attention…
I stopped fighting to meet up with public expectation…
I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…
“And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. Then I started winning big”.
That was the day I gave up on small fights.
Some fights are not worth your time.
Fight to make your visions and dreams come alive!
Fight the good fight of faith!
Fight for your destiny not for your ego!
Entrepreneurs shouldn’t have time for unnecessary fights!
Visionaries don’t cluster their mind with nonsense bickering!
Always ask, what is this fight adding to my destiny, my goal, my progress?
Choose what you fight for in 2018 as a year for greatness.
Compliments of the season to all the game changers.