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Connection before Correction…

These qualities I wish I had used more consistently is Connection before Correction.

Of course, I didn’t know what this meant as a young mother.

Now we know it is just brain science: children learn (grow, feel safe, thrive) best when they feel connection—or as Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs taught us, “a sense of belonging and significance”.

Extensive research shows that we cannot influence children in a positive way until we create a connection with them.

It is a brain (and heart) thing.

🌹Sometimes we have to stop dealing with the misbehavior and first heal the relationship.🌹

Connection creates a sense of safety and openness.

Punishment, lecturing, nagging, scolding, blaming or shaming create fight, flight, or freeze.

One of my favorite examples of “connection before correction” is, “ I Love You 😍 and the answer is no.”

This example also illustrates the Positive Discipline concept of kind and Down at the same time.

Before sharing more ways to create a connection with children, I want to point out that it is a mistake to think that giving children whatever they want is effective.

Rescuing, fixing, and over-protecting are not good ways to create a connection.

Effective connections are made when both child and adult feel belonging and significance.

Most of the Positive Discipline parenting tools provide skills for creating a connecon.

Simple Techniques..

  • Spend special time with children. What could create a greater connection for your child than to know you enjoy spending time with him or her.
  • Listen. Really listen. Stop doing whatever you are doing and give your child your full attention
  • Validate your child’s feelings. Don’t we all feel connected when we feel understood?
  • Share your feelings and thoughts when appropriate. Remember that children will listen to you AFTER they feel listened to. Children feel a connection when you respectfully share something about yourself. Respectfully, means no stories about walking miles in the snow.
  • Focus on solutions WITH children after a cooling off period. There is that word “with” again–because it is a golden bridge to connection.
  • Ask curiosity questions to help children explore the consequences of their choices instead of imposing consequences on them. Sincere questions open the heart and the rational brain—equaling connection.
  • Hugs. There are times when all of us need nothing more than a hug.

Once the connection is made, children are then open to respectful correction.

It is important to understand that “Correction” in the Positive Discipline way is very different from conventional correction.

The biggest difference is that conventional correction usually involves punishment (punitive time-out, grounding, and taking away privileges being the most common).

In other words, conventional correction consists of adults doing something TO children. Positive Discipline correction respectfully involves children whenever possible, finding solutions WITH them.

Two great methods for finding solutions are family meeting and joint problem solving.

These are powerful tools that respectfully involve children to learn and use their personal power in contributing ways.

Connection is created as part of the process.

When children feel a connection, they feel belonging and significance. Often that is enough for misbehavior to stop. As you learn about the many Positive Discipline tools, notice that they are all designed to create a connection before respectful correction.

Winning and Losing ⛳️

I read a quote everyday and ponder on it…

Today Read this :

Success is not measured by what you do compared to what others do; it is measured by what you do with the ability God gave you.

Zig Zigler

Than the stream of though followed….

Most people connect with me and ask please bless my child his exams are there or bless my New Bussiness…..

Blessings is God’s Grace but let’s understand one thing which is very very Important specially when you want your children to succeed in First place.

Please avoid Rat Race….its tooo much pressure on your children.

Regardless of whether I come in first place, second place, or last place, as long as I used my God-given talents to the best of my ability and did the best that I am capable of doing, I have most certainly succeeded.

That is because the real difference between a winner and a loser is their attitude

even if I get passed over for the promotion or do not receive recognition for my work, I can still be a winner.

I set my own personal standards; I define my own success in life.

Divine Success

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I can do it ~ Louise Hay

If you want to create better health in your body, there are definitely some things you must not do: You must not get angry at your body for any reason. Anger is another affirmation, and it’s telling your body that you hate it, or parts of it. Your cells are very aware of every thought you have.

Your body knows how to heal itself. If you feed it healthy foods and beverages, give it exercise and sufficient sleep, and think happy thoughts, then its work is easy. The cells are working in a happy, healthy atmosphere. However, if you’re a couch potato who feeds your body junk food and lots of diet soda, and you skimp on sleep and are grouchy and irritable all the time, then the cells in your body are working at a disadvantage—they’re in a disagreeable atmosphere. If this is the case, it’s no wonder that your body isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be.

You’ll never create good health by talking or thinking about your illness. Good health comes from love and appreciation. You want to put as much love into your body as you possibly can. Talk to it and stroke it in loving ways. If there’s a part of your body that’s ailing or dis-eased, then you want to treat it as you would a sick little child. Tell it how much you love it, and that you’re doing everything you can to help it get well quickly.

If you’re sick, then you want to do more than just go to the doctor and have him or her give you a chemical to take care of the symptom. Your body is telling you that something you’re doing isn’t good for your body. You need to learn more about health—the more you learn, the easier it is to take care of your body. You don’t want to choose to feel like a victim. If you do, you’ll just be giving your power away. You could go to a health-food store and pick up one of the many good books that teach you how to keep yourself healthy, or you could see a nutritionist and have a healthy diet created just for you, but whatever you do, create a healthy, happy mental atmosphere. Be a willing participant in your own health plan.

I believe that we create every so-called illness in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Our body is always talking to us; we just need to take the time to listen. Every cell within our body responds to every single thought we think and every word we speak.

You can choose to think thoughts that create a mental atmosphere that contributes to illness, or you can choose to think thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere both within you and around you.

Positive Affirmations for Health

I enjoy the foods that are best for my body. I love every cell of my body.

I look forward to a healthy old age because I take loving care of my body now.

I am constantly discovering new ways to improve my health.

Healing happens! I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body to do its healing work naturally.

My body is always doing its best to create perfect health.

Fight Vs Flight

Choose What You Fight…

I once met a very successful business woman and I asked her to share her secret with me.

She smiled and said to me..

I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…

I stopped fighting over unnecessary issues with my spouse…

I stopped fighting for attention…

I stopped fighting to meet up with public expectation…

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…

“And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. Then I started winning big”.

That was the day I gave up on small fights.

Some fights are not worth your time.

Fight to make your visions and dreams come alive!

Fight the good fight of faith!

Fight for your destiny not for your ego!

Entrepreneurs shouldn’t have time for unnecessary fights!

Visionaries don’t cluster their mind with nonsense bickering!

Always ask, what is this fight adding to my destiny, my goal, my progress?

Choose what you fight for in 2018 as a year for greatness.

Compliments of the season to all the game changers.

Self Talk ~ Preparing the Ground.

Lesson 5

Positive Self Talk

— Present Tense —

I encourage myself

I am fully confident in myself

I see only the good things in myself

I destroy negative self talk

I am immune to negative thinking

I utilize positive self talk to my advantage

I talk to my mind as needed

I am a strong individual

Positive self talk ensures my independence

I use positive self talk regularly

— Future Tense —

I will get rid of internal negativeness

I will tell myself only positive things

I will stop seeing the bad things in me

I will repeat positive affirmations on a regular basis

I will focus on the positive moments of my life

I will stop comparing myself to others

I will stop putting myself down

My self-image will improve with positive self talk

I am becoming more upbeat

I will stop saying “I can’t”

— Natural Statement —

I naturally talk myself up

I was born a positive person

My awareness of negative talk helps me to eliminate it

I see myself for what I truly am

I constantly remind myself of the good things in my life

I concentrate on my positive attributes

I am naturally my own life coach

I avoid personal doubts

I naturally overcome personal challenges

I know that I am a beautiful person

Divine Talk

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2017 ~ 2018 Journey

It’s a write up, I loved it…

An insightful New Year Message:

**Last year, I had a surgery and my gallbladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time.

**The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favourite job in the Publishing company in which I had spent 30 years of my life

**The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father.

**And in the same year my son failed in his medical exams because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.

At the end he wrote: Alas! It was such a bad year!!

When the writer’s wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper, left the room silently and came back with another paper which she placed on the side of her husband’s writing.

The husband found the following written on the paper:

**Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain.

**I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace.

**The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.

**The same year, God blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability.

At the end she wrote: Last year was an immense blessing of God and it passed well!!

See!! The same incidents but different viewpoints.

*Moral:* In our daily lives we must see that it’s not happiness that makes us grateful but gratefulness that makes us happy.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for!!

Your current position is somebody’s future expectation.

Your life now is somebody’s prayer request.

Don’t let the devil point at you that somebody is doing better than you. It is a strategy for ingratitude.

Anything you celebrate multiplies, anything you despise diminishes.

Appreciation is the vehicle for acceleration.

Gratitude is the lift to great altitude.

To see what God will do, you must acknowledge what God has done.

Stay grateful. Assess 2017 with a grateful heart and thank God for 2018.Happy New Year.

Acceptance 

Acceptance is a necessary precursor to experiencing peace. 

You cannot be resistant and peaceful at the same time.

If you are feeling discomfort, stop and ask what you are not in acceptance of. 

It may be that you are resistant to something simply by habit, in which case you can simply intend to release or surrender it. 

If it is something you cannot understand, or do anything about, you may wish to give it to God to be resolved for the highest good of all. 

Handing it over is a wonderful way to allow your faith and trust to move you into acceptance of the situation.

Finding your way back to acceptance, over and again, is how you become a powerful anchor of peace. 

From there you will find so much more comfort, presence, alignment, and ease. 

You will experience far less stress, and you will be able to shift your focus onto what you know and what it is you want more of, and embrace your role of powerful co-creator.

Abundance Vs Scarcity

Want to Attract Abundance ?

To heal your financial situation, first give us your worries concerning money.
We will guide you in order to show you how to create and accept abundance.
As we work together, your financial situation will heal as fast as you allow.

This card is a sign that your prayers about finances have been heard and answered.
The more you can listen to and follow your gut feelings right now,
the quicker you’ll experience improvements in your financial situation.

Additional Meanings

*The coins you’re finding lately are loving signs from your angels and departed loved ones.

*An unexpected financial windfall is coming to you.

*Give any financial fears to your angels.

*Follow any guidance you receive, as it could be an answered prayer about your finances.

*Abundance can take many forms, including having more time, opportunities, or clear ideas.

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