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Fear over Love

Choosing Love over Fear means:

1. You choose to stop beating yourself up, accept that you too are human, and show yourself compassion.

2. You choose to accept your struggles as opportunities for growth and change.

3. You choose to see all people through a lens of compassion and yes, even the ones who treat you poorly (they’re going through their own stuff … nothing to do with you!).

4. You choose to forgive yourself and others, so you can let the past go, cut the chords, and finally be able to do what you need to do in the present to thrive.

5. You choose to start appreciating your body (instead of bashing it), and that very respect allows you to do what’s right for you and your body daily.

6. You choose to not let others determine your worth.

7. You choose to savor your moments and be grateful for all that you have (even if you want more). Note: it is this very mindset that will get you more.

8. You choose to let the beliefs, thoughts, and ideas that are no longer serving you go.

9. You choose to set loving boundaries, so you can feel important too (and not like a doormat).

10. You choose to honor the present moment, by showing up the best you can for where you are in that moment.

11. You choose to speak your truth and ask for what you need, so you can live freely, fully, and honestly.

12. You choose to see your Possibilities.

13. You choose to remember that feelings are just feelings and that they too will pass.

14. You choose to show your loved ones love.

15. You choose to not let what you labeled yourself as prevent you from becoming who you want to grow into.

No No No ~ YES

🌹A No No No story🌹

Yesterday I was in a business training where the trainer asked us a following question

“If I give you 1cr rupees will you jump from the plane?”

Before I go further I would like you to answer this question.

*What would you reply?*

Most of the people in the room said *”No No No”* there where few of the other interesting answers but a NO was the maximum.

On this the trainer said “you all answered me before I could even inform you wether I’ll give you a parachute or not, or even if the plane is in the sky or on ground.”

This really made me go to all those places in my life where I just say NO NO NO without even considering it on a auto pilot.

Are you doing the same?

Where, when, what, why and how have you made a NO NO NO a auto pilot in your life?

Have you ever wondered how many NO’s are you using from the life you desire and from what you know is possible?

If you would choose to live your life with 🌹YES🌹

*YES* I can.

*YES* let’s do it.

*YES* I love you.

*YES* I am different.

*YES* I don’t like you.

*YES* I want money.

Won’t this crate more ease in your life?👍

✔️Are you willing to have a YES life?✔️

Tell me More

“Hi Bandana,

2 quick questions for you…

1) Are men really from Mars?

2) Are women from Venus?

I’m sure you’ve heard this reference many times before, and the implication is that we’re so different, men and women might as well be from different planets.

The reality is, we are equal in many respects – especially when it comes to our basic human needs like safety, love, belonging, and our desire to become the most we can be. But we are also different… after all, we are individuals with unique experiences.

This can be seen in how we each think, react, and communicate to the same circumstances.

For example, men tend to communicate through actions rather than words.

This behavior can be traced back to prehistoric times, when men did most of the hunting, providing, and solving challenges. In other words, they proved their worth by taking care of their family.

So when a woman tells a man about a problem, his immediate reaction is to fix it.

This approach can make women feel offended, insulted, or even angry–because women don’t necessarily want men to solve their problem.

Unless they specifically ask for that, what women really want is to be heard and understood. They want men to pay attention and connect with them emotionally.

However, men aren’t intentionally trying to be insulting or offensive. They’re just simply following their instinct and survival methods: “I see a problem, therefore I must help NOW.”

So women, if you find yourself getting irritated by men jumping in to solve a situation, problem or challenge, remember it’s not a statement about you or your abilities.

Men are simply acting on their knee-jerk desire to fix whatever they think is “broken.”

And men, I’d like to teach you 3 powerful words you can use every time a woman opens up to you about a challenge she’s experiencing. Instead of jumping into action, take a deep breath, and say these simple words…

“Tell me more.”

Then, let her know you listened by reflecting back and saying things like, “So what you’re saying is…” or “That must be really frustrating,” or “I can see why you’re upset.”

Now that you know about these differences, think about how you can use this knowledge to communicate more effectively with the opposite sex.

Remember this, Laila , women tend to show intimacy by sharing their feelings, while men tend to express their caring through their actions.”

– from a newsletter of Jack Canfield – Author of many books including Success Principles and How to get from where you are to where you want to be and Chicken soup for the Soul series 🙂

Positive or Negative?

*How To Instantly Read Someone’s Personality With One Question*

One type of question can indirectly reveal a lot about a person’s personality.

Asking someone what they think about other people reveals much about their own personality.

*The reason is that people tend to see more of their own qualities in others.*

The generous person sees others as generous and the selfish person sees others as selfish.

Dr Dustin Wood, the study’s first author, said:

_“A huge suite of negative personality traits are associated with viewing others negatively._

_The simple tendency to see people negatively indicates a greater likelihood of depression and various personality disorders.”_

The conclusions come from a series of three studies.

In one people were asked to judge the positive and negative characteristics of three other people.

The more positively they judged those people, the more happy, enthusiastic, capable and emotionally stable they turned out to be themselves.

People who judged others more positively also turned out to be more satisfied with their own lives.

Set against this, those who judged others more negatively had higher levels of narcissism and antisocial behaviour.

The researchers even returned to the same people a year later and found the results were the same.

This suggests that what people’s ratings of others say about themselves remains stable over time.

Personality disorders are often diagnosed at least partly by how people view others, the authors write:

_“…although narcissists may perceive others as being uninteresting or worthless, this may not reflect how they see themselves._

_Similarly, individuals displaying behaviors typical of paranoid personality disorder may believe that others are malevolent and untrustworthy, even though they may not see themselves that way._

_[…]_

_Machiavellianism is usually measured in part by asking individuals the extent to which they perceive a lack of sincerity, integrity, or selflessness in others’ actions, and narcissistic behavior is thought to be prompted in part by a belief that other people are inferior, uninteresting, and unworthy of attention.”_

The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (Wood et al., 2010).

Winning and Losing ⛳️

I read a quote everyday and ponder on it…

Today Read this :

Success is not measured by what you do compared to what others do; it is measured by what you do with the ability God gave you.

Zig Zigler

Than the stream of though followed….

Most people connect with me and ask please bless my child his exams are there or bless my New Bussiness…..

Blessings is God’s Grace but let’s understand one thing which is very very Important specially when you want your children to succeed in First place.

Please avoid Rat Race….its tooo much pressure on your children.

Regardless of whether I come in first place, second place, or last place, as long as I used my God-given talents to the best of my ability and did the best that I am capable of doing, I have most certainly succeeded.

That is because the real difference between a winner and a loser is their attitude

even if I get passed over for the promotion or do not receive recognition for my work, I can still be a winner.

I set my own personal standards; I define my own success in life.

Divine Success

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I can do it ~ Louise Hay

If you want to create better health in your body, there are definitely some things you must not do: You must not get angry at your body for any reason. Anger is another affirmation, and it’s telling your body that you hate it, or parts of it. Your cells are very aware of every thought you have.

Your body knows how to heal itself. If you feed it healthy foods and beverages, give it exercise and sufficient sleep, and think happy thoughts, then its work is easy. The cells are working in a happy, healthy atmosphere. However, if you’re a couch potato who feeds your body junk food and lots of diet soda, and you skimp on sleep and are grouchy and irritable all the time, then the cells in your body are working at a disadvantage—they’re in a disagreeable atmosphere. If this is the case, it’s no wonder that your body isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be.

You’ll never create good health by talking or thinking about your illness. Good health comes from love and appreciation. You want to put as much love into your body as you possibly can. Talk to it and stroke it in loving ways. If there’s a part of your body that’s ailing or dis-eased, then you want to treat it as you would a sick little child. Tell it how much you love it, and that you’re doing everything you can to help it get well quickly.

If you’re sick, then you want to do more than just go to the doctor and have him or her give you a chemical to take care of the symptom. Your body is telling you that something you’re doing isn’t good for your body. You need to learn more about health—the more you learn, the easier it is to take care of your body. You don’t want to choose to feel like a victim. If you do, you’ll just be giving your power away. You could go to a health-food store and pick up one of the many good books that teach you how to keep yourself healthy, or you could see a nutritionist and have a healthy diet created just for you, but whatever you do, create a healthy, happy mental atmosphere. Be a willing participant in your own health plan.

I believe that we create every so-called illness in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Our body is always talking to us; we just need to take the time to listen. Every cell within our body responds to every single thought we think and every word we speak.

You can choose to think thoughts that create a mental atmosphere that contributes to illness, or you can choose to think thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere both within you and around you.

Positive Affirmations for Health

I enjoy the foods that are best for my body. I love every cell of my body.

I look forward to a healthy old age because I take loving care of my body now.

I am constantly discovering new ways to improve my health.

Healing happens! I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body to do its healing work naturally.

My body is always doing its best to create perfect health.

Fight Vs Flight

Choose What You Fight…

I once met a very successful business woman and I asked her to share her secret with me.

She smiled and said to me..

I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…

I stopped fighting over unnecessary issues with my spouse…

I stopped fighting for attention…

I stopped fighting to meet up with public expectation…

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…

“And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. Then I started winning big”.

That was the day I gave up on small fights.

Some fights are not worth your time.

Fight to make your visions and dreams come alive!

Fight the good fight of faith!

Fight for your destiny not for your ego!

Entrepreneurs shouldn’t have time for unnecessary fights!

Visionaries don’t cluster their mind with nonsense bickering!

Always ask, what is this fight adding to my destiny, my goal, my progress?

Choose what you fight for in 2018 as a year for greatness.

Compliments of the season to all the game changers.

Self Talk ~ Preparing the Ground.

Lesson 5

Positive Self Talk

— Present Tense —

I encourage myself

I am fully confident in myself

I see only the good things in myself

I destroy negative self talk

I am immune to negative thinking

I utilize positive self talk to my advantage

I talk to my mind as needed

I am a strong individual

Positive self talk ensures my independence

I use positive self talk regularly

— Future Tense —

I will get rid of internal negativeness

I will tell myself only positive things

I will stop seeing the bad things in me

I will repeat positive affirmations on a regular basis

I will focus on the positive moments of my life

I will stop comparing myself to others

I will stop putting myself down

My self-image will improve with positive self talk

I am becoming more upbeat

I will stop saying “I can’t”

— Natural Statement —

I naturally talk myself up

I was born a positive person

My awareness of negative talk helps me to eliminate it

I see myself for what I truly am

I constantly remind myself of the good things in my life

I concentrate on my positive attributes

I am naturally my own life coach

I avoid personal doubts

I naturally overcome personal challenges

I know that I am a beautiful person

Divine Talk

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2017 ~ 2018 Journey

It’s a write up, I loved it…

An insightful New Year Message:

**Last year, I had a surgery and my gallbladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time.

**The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favourite job in the Publishing company in which I had spent 30 years of my life

**The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father.

**And in the same year my son failed in his medical exams because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.

At the end he wrote: Alas! It was such a bad year!!

When the writer’s wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper, left the room silently and came back with another paper which she placed on the side of her husband’s writing.

The husband found the following written on the paper:

**Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain.

**I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace.

**The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.

**The same year, God blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability.

At the end she wrote: Last year was an immense blessing of God and it passed well!!

See!! The same incidents but different viewpoints.

*Moral:* In our daily lives we must see that it’s not happiness that makes us grateful but gratefulness that makes us happy.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for!!

Your current position is somebody’s future expectation.

Your life now is somebody’s prayer request.

Don’t let the devil point at you that somebody is doing better than you. It is a strategy for ingratitude.

Anything you celebrate multiplies, anything you despise diminishes.

Appreciation is the vehicle for acceleration.

Gratitude is the lift to great altitude.

To see what God will do, you must acknowledge what God has done.

Stay grateful. Assess 2017 with a grateful heart and thank God for 2018.Happy New Year.

Freedom comes with Responsibility ?

It is true that free will gives one the ability to do what they like. 

However, we each have within us the power to do so much more–to be good stewards of life, to be men of integrity and character, to do what “ought to be done even in the very face of otherwise overwhelming impulses.”

 And because we have this power, we have a duty to use it in great and positive ways. 
There are some who take their freedom for granted; who see it more as an entitlement than as a great privilege and responsibility. 

Our freedom is wasted when we use it in such a manner. 

Let us assume I have come into possession of a basket of apples. I have the liberty to waste those apples–to perhaps let them rot because I have little need for them.

 I have the freedom to eat those apples myself–perhaps I feel I deserve them. I have the freedom to share them with others–to show concern and compassion to my fellow man. 

Additionally, I have the liberty to take the seeds from those apples and plant them to benefit all of humanity. 

It is from our own free will that we will discover our ability to positively affect the lives of others. 

And when we recognize the incredible power of our own freedom, we create the opportunity to act on issues that need acting upon. 

Thereby consistently doing “what ought to be done,” we are truly and authentically being free. 

Divine Freewill 

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