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Tell me More

“Hi Bandana,

2 quick questions for you…

1) Are men really from Mars?

2) Are women from Venus?

I’m sure you’ve heard this reference many times before, and the implication is that we’re so different, men and women might as well be from different planets.

The reality is, we are equal in many respects – especially when it comes to our basic human needs like safety, love, belonging, and our desire to become the most we can be. But we are also different… after all, we are individuals with unique experiences.

This can be seen in how we each think, react, and communicate to the same circumstances.

For example, men tend to communicate through actions rather than words.

This behavior can be traced back to prehistoric times, when men did most of the hunting, providing, and solving challenges. In other words, they proved their worth by taking care of their family.

So when a woman tells a man about a problem, his immediate reaction is to fix it.

This approach can make women feel offended, insulted, or even angry–because women don’t necessarily want men to solve their problem.

Unless they specifically ask for that, what women really want is to be heard and understood. They want men to pay attention and connect with them emotionally.

However, men aren’t intentionally trying to be insulting or offensive. They’re just simply following their instinct and survival methods: “I see a problem, therefore I must help NOW.”

So women, if you find yourself getting irritated by men jumping in to solve a situation, problem or challenge, remember it’s not a statement about you or your abilities.

Men are simply acting on their knee-jerk desire to fix whatever they think is “broken.”

And men, I’d like to teach you 3 powerful words you can use every time a woman opens up to you about a challenge she’s experiencing. Instead of jumping into action, take a deep breath, and say these simple words…

“Tell me more.”

Then, let her know you listened by reflecting back and saying things like, “So what you’re saying is…” or “That must be really frustrating,” or “I can see why you’re upset.”

Now that you know about these differences, think about how you can use this knowledge to communicate more effectively with the opposite sex.

Remember this, Laila , women tend to show intimacy by sharing their feelings, while men tend to express their caring through their actions.”

– from a newsletter of Jack Canfield – Author of many books including Success Principles and How to get from where you are to where you want to be and Chicken soup for the Soul series 🙂

Bitterness ?

Today someone asked a question….what if close family tries to stop us from reaching out True Potential…..

And the question arose so many questions in my mind on how to answer this query in the best possible way….and here what you ask you receive….

Sharing this wonderful Insight which is slightly Long but worth a read and we can also discuss it for more clarification…

Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims, in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing.

It is natural to feel resentment or anger when life does not unfold as expected.

We consciously or unconsciously anticipated one experience, and we grieve for the loss of it when the universe puts something else in our path.

Most of the time, we work through these feelings and they pass.

Occasionally, our anger and resentment do not fade and are instead transformed into bitterness.

Bitter feelings allow us to become perfect victims in that we no longer feel obliged to work toward healing and choose instead to identify with our pain.

Yet as unwholesome as bitterness can be, it is also a natural element of our emotional palette.

When we acknowledge that it is okay to feel bitter, we reconnect with our hurt in a constructive way and can begin the process of working through it.

The nature of bitterness is rooted in the fact that the pain we feel provides us with a rationale.

We may feel that we deserve to embrace our bitterness to its full extent.

And to be bitter is, in essence, to cut ourselves off from all that is positive, hardening our hearts and vowing never to let go of our hurt.

But just as bitter feelings can be self-defeating, so too can the release of bitterness be life-affirming in a way that few other emotional experiences are.

When we decide that we no longer want to be bitter, we are reborn into a world filled with delight and fulfillment unlike any we knew while in the clutches of bitterness.

The veil it cast over our lives is lifted, letting light and warmth touch our souls.

Divesting yourself of bitter feelings can be as simple as truly forgiving and moving on.

Even when your bitterness has no concrete object, you can forgive situations too.

Healing pain can be challenging but may be easier if you remind yourself that you are the only entity truly affected by your emotional state.

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n time, you will discover that letting go of your bitterness frees you to initiate the healing process and allows you to once again celebrate the possibility of the more wonderful life you deserve.

Divine Expansion

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I can do it ~ Louise Hay

If you want to create better health in your body, there are definitely some things you must not do: You must not get angry at your body for any reason. Anger is another affirmation, and it’s telling your body that you hate it, or parts of it. Your cells are very aware of every thought you have.

Your body knows how to heal itself. If you feed it healthy foods and beverages, give it exercise and sufficient sleep, and think happy thoughts, then its work is easy. The cells are working in a happy, healthy atmosphere. However, if you’re a couch potato who feeds your body junk food and lots of diet soda, and you skimp on sleep and are grouchy and irritable all the time, then the cells in your body are working at a disadvantage—they’re in a disagreeable atmosphere. If this is the case, it’s no wonder that your body isn’t as healthy as you’d like it to be.

You’ll never create good health by talking or thinking about your illness. Good health comes from love and appreciation. You want to put as much love into your body as you possibly can. Talk to it and stroke it in loving ways. If there’s a part of your body that’s ailing or dis-eased, then you want to treat it as you would a sick little child. Tell it how much you love it, and that you’re doing everything you can to help it get well quickly.

If you’re sick, then you want to do more than just go to the doctor and have him or her give you a chemical to take care of the symptom. Your body is telling you that something you’re doing isn’t good for your body. You need to learn more about health—the more you learn, the easier it is to take care of your body. You don’t want to choose to feel like a victim. If you do, you’ll just be giving your power away. You could go to a health-food store and pick up one of the many good books that teach you how to keep yourself healthy, or you could see a nutritionist and have a healthy diet created just for you, but whatever you do, create a healthy, happy mental atmosphere. Be a willing participant in your own health plan.

I believe that we create every so-called illness in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. Our body is always talking to us; we just need to take the time to listen. Every cell within our body responds to every single thought we think and every word we speak.

You can choose to think thoughts that create a mental atmosphere that contributes to illness, or you can choose to think thoughts that create a healthy atmosphere both within you and around you.

Positive Affirmations for Health

I enjoy the foods that are best for my body. I love every cell of my body.

I look forward to a healthy old age because I take loving care of my body now.

I am constantly discovering new ways to improve my health.

Healing happens! I get my mind out of the way and allow the intelligence of my body to do its healing work naturally.

My body is always doing its best to create perfect health.

Fight Vs Flight

Choose What You Fight…

I once met a very successful business woman and I asked her to share her secret with me.

She smiled and said to me..

I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights for small fighters.

I stopped fighting those who gossiped about me…

I stopped fighting over unnecessary issues with my spouse…

I stopped fighting for attention…

I stopped fighting to meet up with public expectation…

I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight…

“And I started fighting for my vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. Then I started winning big”.

That was the day I gave up on small fights.

Some fights are not worth your time.

Fight to make your visions and dreams come alive!

Fight the good fight of faith!

Fight for your destiny not for your ego!

Entrepreneurs shouldn’t have time for unnecessary fights!

Visionaries don’t cluster their mind with nonsense bickering!

Always ask, what is this fight adding to my destiny, my goal, my progress?

Choose what you fight for in 2018 as a year for greatness.

Compliments of the season to all the game changers.

Self Talk ~ Preparing the Ground.

Lesson 5

Positive Self Talk

— Present Tense —

I encourage myself

I am fully confident in myself

I see only the good things in myself

I destroy negative self talk

I am immune to negative thinking

I utilize positive self talk to my advantage

I talk to my mind as needed

I am a strong individual

Positive self talk ensures my independence

I use positive self talk regularly

— Future Tense —

I will get rid of internal negativeness

I will tell myself only positive things

I will stop seeing the bad things in me

I will repeat positive affirmations on a regular basis

I will focus on the positive moments of my life

I will stop comparing myself to others

I will stop putting myself down

My self-image will improve with positive self talk

I am becoming more upbeat

I will stop saying “I can’t”

— Natural Statement —

I naturally talk myself up

I was born a positive person

My awareness of negative talk helps me to eliminate it

I see myself for what I truly am

I constantly remind myself of the good things in my life

I concentrate on my positive attributes

I am naturally my own life coach

I avoid personal doubts

I naturally overcome personal challenges

I know that I am a beautiful person

Divine Talk

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2017 ~ 2018 Journey

It’s a write up, I loved it…

An insightful New Year Message:

**Last year, I had a surgery and my gallbladder was removed. I had to stay stuck to the bed due to this surgery for a long time.

**The same year I reached the age of 60 years and had to give up my favourite job in the Publishing company in which I had spent 30 years of my life

**The same year I experienced the sorrow of the death of my father.

**And in the same year my son failed in his medical exams because he had a car accident. He had to stay in bed at hospital with the cast on for several days. The destruction of car was another loss.

At the end he wrote: Alas! It was such a bad year!!

When the writer’s wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad lost in his thoughts. From behind his back she read what was written on the paper, left the room silently and came back with another paper which she placed on the side of her husband’s writing.

The husband found the following written on the paper:

**Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder due to which I had spent years in pain.

**I turned 60 with sound health and got retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write something better with more focus and peace.

**The same year my father, at the age of 95, without depending on anyone or without any critical condition met his Creator.

**The same year, God blessed my son with a new life. My car was destroyed but my son stayed alive without getting any disability.

At the end she wrote: Last year was an immense blessing of God and it passed well!!

See!! The same incidents but different viewpoints.

*Moral:* In our daily lives we must see that it’s not happiness that makes us grateful but gratefulness that makes us happy.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for!!

Your current position is somebody’s future expectation.

Your life now is somebody’s prayer request.

Don’t let the devil point at you that somebody is doing better than you. It is a strategy for ingratitude.

Anything you celebrate multiplies, anything you despise diminishes.

Appreciation is the vehicle for acceleration.

Gratitude is the lift to great altitude.

To see what God will do, you must acknowledge what God has done.

Stay grateful. Assess 2017 with a grateful heart and thank God for 2018.Happy New Year.

Personal Development


Now is the time to focus on developing yourself and making personal growth a priority in your life. 

Personal development doesn’t need to be something arduous or stuffy. 

Rather it’s a lifelong process of gaining skills, setting big goals, and increasing confidence.

Through personal empowerment and spiritual growth, you can align with a more fulfilling and higher quality life.

Developing yourself personally is about realizing and maximizing your full potential, and uncovering the true reason for why you are alive in the physical. 

Without focusing on your personal growth first, your service to others will be limited because you will not have the required energy or skills to invest in creating a better world for you and for humanity. 

As you continue forward, you will receive signs and guidance that you are on your right path and how specifically you should continue.

Love opens this guidance. 

Love opens the door. 

Listen and act upon the guidance you receive, and the door will open wider, allowing more growth and more of your authentic truth to shine into this present moment.

Keep taking steps to bring blessings and growth into your own life by focusing on growing personally, stepping into your power, and aligning with more of your authentic truth. 

Nurturing your personal growth through reading, journaling, meditating, and developing skills is a foundation you can then build on to accomplish your life’s work.  
Divine Growth & Divine Development 

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Career, business growth and success affirmations

Career, business growth and success affirmations 

Action leads to positive results, and I love results 

Every action I take moves me closer to my goals 

Great money-making ideas come to me every day  

I always achieve my goals  

I always know which actions will return the greatest rewards and benefits  

I am a brilliant businessman/businesswoman/entrepreneur  

I am a spring of brilliant, profitable ideas  

I am a nurturing and supportive manager and colleague  

I am an excellent speaker and can competently stand up for what I believe

 I am completely at ease taking on new challenges and roles 

 I am confident and capable in all my business dealings 

 I am confident and self-assured in all situations 

 I am dedicated and persistent 

 I am deserving ofa promotion and a raise 

 I am excellent at planning 

 I am good enough for a promotion 

 I am grateful for my career and abilities 

 I am immensely grateful for the wonderful customers that support my business 

 I am powerful and persuasive

 I am respected by my peers and colleagues 

 I am winning the respect and business of new clients every week 

 I believe in myself and my company/employer 

 I can see my dreams and I naturally convert this to the right actions

 I deal with people using integrity and honesty and they recognise this

I demonstrate my commitment to my staff/boss/team 

I do the important things first 

 I have infinite energy to build my company, and the belief to make it successful 

 I have lots of sales and success every day 

I have strong visual ideas of success 

 I know exactly what to say in a job interview to impress the interviewer

 I plan my day and it follows the plan 

I think clearly before I react, even in high-pressure situations 

I thrive under pressure 

I trust myself to do an arnazing job and over-deliver on my clients expectations 

 I trust that all situations arise for a reason, and that reason is always the perfect reason 

 I vibrate success and attract rewarding and profitable clients 

 I am inspired to take action every day 

 My boss respects me 

 My business is growing rapidly

 My communication skills are superb and I convey my meaning with quiet self-assurance 

 My company is competitive and respected 

 My positivity rubs of on my colleagues, managers and direct reports and helps us achieve greater business success

Divine Growth and Expansion
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Relationship Affirmation

Relationship affirmations

All my relationships are long-lasting and loving
Being compassionate and considerate is one of my top priorities
Everyone acts with good intent I accept a perfect, loving relationship
I accept apologies with compassion and forgiveness
I act like the person I want to become
I always speak kindly of other people
I am a consistent, reliable friend that is always there when people need me
I am an honest and devoted partner
I am attractive and engaging
I am creating rewarding relationships every day
I am creating room in my life for my soul mate ( if single) 
I am enjoying a fabulous relationship with a person that adores and loves me
I am generous and giving of my time and resources
I am immensely happy to be in a relationship with my soul mate 

I am more in love every day

 I am ready to accept the perfect partner into my life

 I am sexier now than I have ever been 

I am supremely confident meeting new men/women 

I am worthy of love 

I attract positive people into my life

 I deserve the perfect partner and a beautiful relationship

 I easily remember names and faces 

I empower people and make them feel great about themselves

 I enjoy making love and being intimate 

I feel attractive and proud of myself

 I have a caring wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend 

I have an excellent relationship with my wife/husband/kids/boyfriend/girlfriend 

I have awesome friends that care about me 

I make friends easily because I can quickly find common ground 

I see the world and the people in it through eyes of love and acceptance 

It’s easy to meet interesting men/women who find me attractive 

It’s OK to have my own beliefs and I accept that others are entitled to have their beliefs 

My boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband/lover is the most attractive person in the world 

My friends love spending time with me 

My life is filled with passion and romance

My words and actions build stronger bonds with people I care about 

My work and home life are in perfect harmony 

People are interested in me because I am interesting 

The more I love myself, the more attractive I become to other people 

When people share their feelings, I am a compassionate and understanding listener 

Women/men find me very attractive
Divine Relationship
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