2 quick questions for you…
1) Are men really from Mars?
2) Are women from Venus?
I’m sure you’ve heard this reference many times before, and the implication is that we’re so different, men and women might as well be from different planets.
The reality is, we are equal in many respects – especially when it comes to our basic human needs like safety, love, belonging, and our desire to become the most we can be. But we are also different… after all, we are individuals with unique experiences.
This can be seen in how we each think, react, and communicate to the same circumstances.
For example, men tend to communicate through actions rather than words.
This behavior can be traced back to prehistoric times, when men did most of the hunting, providing, and solving challenges. In other words, they proved their worth by taking care of their family.
So when a woman tells a man about a problem, his immediate reaction is to fix it.
This approach can make women feel offended, insulted, or even angry–because women don’t necessarily want men to solve their problem.
Unless they specifically ask for that, what women really want is to be heard and understood. They want men to pay attention and connect with them emotionally.
However, men aren’t intentionally trying to be insulting or offensive. They’re just simply following their instinct and survival methods: “I see a problem, therefore I must help NOW.”
So women, if you find yourself getting irritated by men jumping in to solve a situation, problem or challenge, remember it’s not a statement about you or your abilities.
Men are simply acting on their knee-jerk desire to fix whatever they think is “broken.”
And men, I’d like to teach you 3 powerful words you can use every time a woman opens up to you about a challenge she’s experiencing. Instead of jumping into action, take a deep breath, and say these simple words…
“Tell me more.”
Then, let her know you listened by reflecting back and saying things like, “So what you’re saying is…” or “That must be really frustrating,” or “I can see why you’re upset.”
Now that you know about these differences, think about how you can use this knowledge to communicate more effectively with the opposite sex.
Remember this, Laila , women tend to show intimacy by sharing their feelings, while men tend to express their caring through their actions.”
– from a newsletter of Jack Canfield – Author of many books including Success Principles and How to get from where you are to where you want to be and Chicken soup for the Soul series 🙂
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